[Cavehill Red]

Originally Posted by bedrock#1

True Story -

Was being blackmailed by my ex for more money or she would stop me seeing my son - went to the court office in Dun Laoghaire to set a date to have the maintenance regulated by the court - was told only the mother could apply for maintenance!

Sounds like there is no current maintenance order in place, otherwise that's what applies and your ex can go swing.
Given that there is none in place, stop paying her anything at all the minute she seeks to interfere with access.
Also, do you have a current court ordered access agreement? It's not worth the paper it's written on, but you should get one if you don't have one nonetheless.

[bedrock#1]

Originally Posted by Cavehill Red

Sounds like there is no current maintenance order in place, otherwise that's what applies and your ex can go swing.
Given that there is none in place, stop paying her anything at all the minute she seeks to interfere with access.
Also, do you have a current court ordered access agreement? It's not worth the paper it's written on, but you should get one if you don't have one nonetheless.

I applied for guardianship and access there and then, when she got my summons she applied for maintenance. This was about 5 years ago. The girl in the court office was really nice and gave me sound advice. The judge on the other hand ....

[bedrock#1]

Originally Posted by Bababa

Was in court yesterday myself..(mother lookin to take kid to Canada). I Was seeking guardianship/joint custody/access. The judge spent the day dealing with the cases where consent was sorted out..the remainder of us were called in about 6oc to be told he's finishing for the day..mother got up and raised the Canada issue..he responds by saying..of course ur kid can go.. This man has no legal standing. Mad stuff considering that's what I was there for. Obviously the fact that he has my surname..and my name is on the birth cert is meaningless.

That is shameful sh1t man, sorry you're going through that. Probably no consolation but your kid might never forgive her for taking them away from you. That's low.

[K-9]

Originally Posted by Bababa

Was in court yesterday myself..(mother lookin to take kid to Canada). I Was seeking guardianship/joint custody/access. The judge spent the day dealing with the cases where consent was sorted out..the remainder of us were called in about 6oc to be told he's finishing for the day..mother got up and raised the Canada issue..he responds by saying..of course ur kid can go.. This man has no legal standing. Mad stuff considering that's what I was there for. Obviously the fact that he has my surname..and my name is on the birth cert is meaningless.

The legal system is a joke..I only have to think back to the judge Brian Curtain case..kiddy porn on the hard drive...no charges brought..crock of sh1t.
Also solicitors..€200 cash or €400 through the books...says it all

Ask the court clerk if you can appeal. I know maintenance orders can be appealed but you need to do it quickly.