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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    I wasn't feeling at all well this morning, so I took my jacket off when I got into town. Got stopped by one of them charity collectors, and they asked about the scars :/ bit awkward,


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,030 ✭✭✭neemish


    cloud493 wrote: »
    I wasn't feeling at all this morning, so I took my jacket off when I got into town. Got stopped by one of them charity collectors, and they asked about the scars :/ bit awkward,

    That was more than a bit cheeky of them...in my mind, only health professionals have a right to ask and even then, only if it effects them


  • Registered Users Posts: 5,566 ✭✭✭Gillo


    cloud493 wrote: »
    I wasn't feeling at all well this morning, so I took my jacket off when I got into town. Got stopped by one of them charity collectors, and they asked about the scars :/ bit awkward,

    I know they are meant to be forward but jesus christ on a bike thats a bit much isn't it.


  • Registered Users Posts: 478 ✭✭Kaching


    cloud493 wrote: »
    I wasn't feeling at all well this morning, so I took my jacket off when I got into town. Got stopped by one of them charity collectors, and they asked about the scars :/ bit awkward,

    What business is it of theirs?


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,091 ✭✭✭hattoncracker


    cloud493 wrote: »
    I wasn't feeling at all well this morning, so I took my jacket off when I got into town. Got stopped by one of them charity collectors, and they asked about the scars :/ bit awkward,


    They resort to shock tactics to get you to stop and talk to them.. A*****es..


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    Kaching wrote: »
    What business is it of theirs?

    Conversation basically went

    'hi there, would you like to donate
    no thanks im a bit busy
    ooh thats some nasty cuts you've got on your arms there. Did you get attacked by a tiger?(insert laughing)
    yeah really funny ok bye now
    no seriously how it happen, they look nasty
    I fell over'

    Cue me walking very fast away.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    i'd almost go so far as to report them cloud, that's not on.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    i'd almost go so far as to report them cloud, that's not on.

    What would I say I'm reporting them for, would it be harassment or something?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,805 ✭✭✭jammstarr


    i'd almost go so far as to report them cloud, that's not on.

    I second this - if you got his/her name.
    cloud493 wrote: »
    What would I say I'm reporting them for, would it be harassment or something?

    Yeah it portrays the chuggers in a negative light to the public which I'm sure the higher ups would be keen to get sorted - they'd get a bollocking for being rude to potential donators.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    cloud493 wrote: »
    What would I say I'm reporting them for, would it be harassment or something?

    i'm not really sure tbh, but i know i wold never do it, beause of what the answer could be. but yeah a comment that was unnecessary


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    I guess :/ saw the agency it was anyway. Just entirely unnecessary to say like.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,805 ✭✭✭jammstarr


    cloud493 wrote: »
    I guess :/ saw the agency it was anyway. Just entirely unnecessary to say like.

    Fuck'em anyway.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37 anonimous


    once you've admitted it to yourself its much easier.. Telling them will make it easy for you to succeed.. Or if you don't feel comfortable, you could tell a teacher you trust and they will talk to your parents for you.

    It's hard, im in a very similar situation to you. I've only just admitted I need help, on my way to my first counselling appt, because I know I'll just ruin college for myself if I don't, and then all the hard work I'ved done will be for nothing!

    thank you. best of luck to you, i hope the appt went wellv


  • Registered Users Posts: 27,645 ✭✭✭✭nesf


    cloud493 wrote: »
    Conversation basically went

    'hi there, would you like to donate
    no thanks im a bit busy
    ooh thats some nasty cuts you've got on your arms there. Did you get attacked by a tiger?(insert laughing)
    yeah really funny ok bye now
    no seriously how it happen, they look nasty
    I fell over'

    Cue me walking very fast away.

    Most likely the stitches made him think that there's no way it was self inflicted. Etc.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    nesf wrote: »
    Most likely the stitches made him think that there's no way it was self inflicted. Etc.

    Thats fair enough. Still :/


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,492 ✭✭✭degausserxo


    Was it said in a derogatory sort of way though? People just tend to be curious, you know?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    Not really. Kind of jokey, till they asked me where they from seriously. Just rattled me a bit you know.


  • Registered Users Posts: 112 ✭✭Plumpynuter


    On another note, does anyone else find that if you really want to beat something like this, it requires work all day every day... like active mental work. For me to keep it up it feels like I have to consciously use as much of my brain as I would studying... if I stop for a period of time I regress

    On the appearance thing, I took loads of vitamins, gave up dairy and drank loads of water as well as walking every day. Don't really know what made the difference but it was probably a combination off all of them.

    I find the best thing to do is just routine myself. I made an agreement with myself that I was replacing the meds with healthy positive actions. For now its working for me. Who knows what the future will bring :)

    I know what you mean about the active mental work. I was exhausted trying to fight it. When I am down I have now tried to stop looking for reasons. There are no reasons really. I was tired of never living up to my own expectations. Tired of the label of depression being the defining characteristic of my personality. Its not positive thoughts that help. Its positive actions, routine and distractions that make the difference for me.

    Some things in life are crap and they are not only crap because of depression. Some people are bastards and its not just us being sensitive or depressed.

    We are all too hard on ourselves.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,838 ✭✭✭midlandsmissus


    What counsellors are ya'll seeilng? I'm on a very very long waiting list.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,805 ✭✭✭jammstarr


    What counsellors are ya'll seeilng? I'm on a very very long waiting list.

    I went to one privately. He was very understanding as I was out of work at the time so each meetup was very cheap. He was a lovely guy however I just felt it wasn't for me - not just him but the whole counselling thing in general.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,091 ✭✭✭hattoncracker


    anonimous wrote: »
    thank you. best of luck to you, i hope the appt went wellv

    It did, my counsellor has recommending a leave of absence, and has contacted my coordinator. I'm going to take a year out, work a few extra hours to save some money, attend counselling, get my driving licence, learn Java so I'm more prepared for going back, and join the gym. These are the things that are weighing on my mind on top of my loss, and these are the things that I will be working on.

    The weight off my shoulders having had this sorted out has been immense. I cannot tell you how much better I feel, and I'm pretty sure it will be a load of your mind too!


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    It did, my counsellor has recommending a leave of absence, and has contacted my coordinator. I'm going to take a year out, work a few extra hours to save some money, attend counselling, get my driving licence, learn Java so I'm more prepared for going back, and join the gym. These are the things that are weighing on my mind on top of my loss, and these are the things that I will be working on.

    The weight off my shoulders having had this sorted out has been immense. I cannot tell you how much better I feel, and I'm pretty sure it will be a load of your mind too!

    That's great to hear!


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,126 ✭✭✭Aoifums


    I'm currently seeing the head of the college counselling service. I changed counsellors but I still don't feel like it's working for me. I was supposed to be going tomorrow but I pushed back my appointment.


  • Registered Users Posts: 478 ✭✭Kaching


    Im on a very very long waiting list too


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,091 ✭✭✭hattoncracker


    It did, my counsellor has recommending a leave of absence, and has contacted my coordinator. I'm going to take a year out, work a few extra hours to save some money, attend counselling, get my driving licence, learn Java so I'm more prepared for going back, and join the gym. These are the things that are weighing on my mind on top of my loss, and these are the things that I will be working on.

    The weight off my shoulders having had this sorted out has been immense. I cannot tell you how much better I feel, and I'm pretty sure it will be a load of your mind too!

    That's great to hear!

    I know! I just hope I get approved for the leave of absence!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37 anonimous


    It did, my counsellor has recommending a leave of absence, and has contacted my coordinator. I'm going to take a year out, work a few extra hours to save some money, attend counselling, get my driving licence, learn Java so I'm more prepared for going back, and join the gym. These are the things that are weighing on my mind on top of my loss, and these are the things that I will be working on.

    The weight off my shoulders having had this sorted out has been immense. I cannot tell you how much better I feel, and I'm pretty sure it will be a load of your mind too!

    that's brilliant!

    i was about to tell my parents but last night my brother (who had been sick but seemed to be getting better) took a turn downhill and needed to be transferred to a hospital in dublin. so, i'm waiting for the right time...


  • Registered Users Posts: 11,698 ✭✭✭✭Princess Peach


    I see the college psychologist and go to the college support groups. Thank god because I could never afford a specialist in eating disorders otherwise. A friend of mine is often an inn-patient in a hospital in Dublin for eating disorders, paid for by her health insurance. She saw one of the top psychologists for a few sessions there who would have cost her €2000 for the sessions privately, rediculous!

    I saw a private counselor last year, she was a counselor not a psychologist. It was €50 an hour which wasn't too bad really. She only saw me every two weeks because she knew I was on a low wage and thought it would benefit me more to have time between the sessions then to work on things, not to spend my money every week when I wouldn't have much time to think on things.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,091 ✭✭✭hattoncracker


    anonimous wrote: »
    It did, my counsellor has recommending a leave of absence, and has contacted my coordinator. I'm going to take a year out, work a few extra hours to save some money, attend counselling, get my driving licence, learn Java so I'm more prepared for going back, and join the gym. These are the things that are weighing on my mind on top of my loss, and these are the things that I will be working on.

    The weight off my shoulders having had this sorted out has been immense. I cannot tell you how much better I feel, and I'm pretty sure it will be a load of your mind too!

    that's brilliant!

    i was about to tell my parents but last night my brother (who had been sick but seemed to be getting better) took a turn downhill and needed to be transferred to a hospital in dublin. so, i'm waiting for the right time...


    hope he's ok hun.. But don't leave it too long! your health is important too!


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    I see the college psychologist and go to the college support groups. Thank god because I could never afford a specialist in eating disorders otherwise.

    Do you mind me asking, has there been much focus on mirror work with any of the people you've seen? Do you feel you have a problem with visual perception as well? I only ask because I think I do and I've been thinking a lot about mirror exercises that you hear about from people with eating disorders.

    I remember in hospital, a patient doing a mirror exercise with me and it was like my eyes could see (for about a minute) what was really there and it was incredible. But I can't remember the specifics and I'm not sure if it was my imagination or not...


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37 anonimous


    hope he's ok hun.. But don't leave it too long! your health is important too!

    i know and thank you, it's just not the right time at all. they are both stressed out of their minds. they don't need me dumping this on them too.


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