Need a Girls Opinion On This.

OTT. Would feel bit uncomfortable if my date (who I was also good friends with) did same. I just wanted his company, hense I asked him. Wasn't looking for anything more, in line of material things. However, thought the hugh bouquet of good quality flowers he bought for my mother was lovely..not forgetting the nicest corsage ever for me.

you can give it 2me
but i agree with fast mover. it might make her uncomfortable that you spent that much money on her.

minidazzler wrote: »

However, If you do decide to give it to her, make sure you know the dress colour. otherwise they might clash.

That was the cutest response ever! It's such a woman's way of looking at things, haha. :pac:

I agree with the above posters, unless you are really good friends it is a bit much & might make her uncomfortable, still I'm sure it would be a lovely surprise. Wish I had a date like you for my Debs
Re. the engraving, I would be inclined to leave it simple - date Debs 2008 etc. (as one poster said if you guys ever fall out or she's a bit embarassed she might never wear it again if the names are on it) - without the names she might wear it more.
The main thing though is if you think she feels the same way about you as you do about her, you have to talk about that, maybe not on Debs night but next day perhaps especially if all goes well. You might lose your chance if both of you go ff to different colleges, places after all this....

Its a little ott, the bracelet is fab though, if you still really want to get it for her do, but the engraving part (even the date of the debs) is a push to far.

Can you not just tell her how you feel?

Nope, it's too much.

You're only friends but you're hoping for more eventually?

Then you have to tread carefully - a gesture this big will scare her off and you'll never get anywhere. You do not have to give her a present at all, and I think you shouldn't. Long-term bfs and gfs may exchange gifts at Debs (though I doubt it's common) but definately not pals.

You have to decide what you expect from the occasion. If I were you, I'd have this expectation: that after the Debs she sees you as a romantic possibility. It's only a short night, and you'll both be surrounded by people, so that's good enough for one evening.

I say this from a girls point of view - she won't want to go from 0 (longterm totally platonic pals) to 100 (shifting the face off you) in the space of 5 hours. It's something that would freak out most 17/18 year old girls. What you should be hoping for is 0 (see above) to say....25 (seeing longterm platonic pal in a totally different light).

Then in the weeks afterwards, you can gradually build on that.


If I was going to the Debs with a male buddy (which is what you are to her at present) then:

• I'd expect a lovely corsage, and for him to maybe share rounds with me once there.
  
• I'd expect him to spend some time with me and not abandon me once we got there to spend the whole night with his mates.
  
• I'd expect him to hold out his elbow for me to put my hand in it, but not to presume I want to hold hands straight off the bat.
  
• If I suspected he may have romantic feelings for me, I wouldn't be suprised if he asked me to dance during a slow set. I'd appreciate it if he asked me privately, or if he couldn't seperate me from the herd if he at least whispered it into my ear. This is so if I really didn't want to be anything other than friends, I could shake my head without any of my friends slagging me, or embarressing you.
  
• If I accepted, it would be because I was intrigued by the idea of him as a romantic prospect. But I wouldn't be sure how I felt so I'd appreciate it if he just danced with me and talked quietly throughout (about the evenings gossip and crack so far is a good topic - just don't chatter on nervously like a monkey. Exude calm.), and didn't presume to slap the gob on me. By accepting the dance, I would be testing out my romantic feelings for him - not my sexual feelings! If the dance ended without him trying to shift me, I'd be secretly a bit relieved, as that would be going too fast for me - and I'd be grateful for your consideration and I'd feel the warm fuzzies towards you.

By the nights end, you'd have been sweet, funny, considerate and I'd have danced a really nice romantic slow set with you. On the way home if you held my hand I wouldn't mind and might actually think it feels quite nice.

Of course the above depends on (a) her accepting your dance - if she doesn't then she doesn't see you as a romantic prospect at present and you'll have to wait a few weeks longer and try again, and (b) neither of you getting ratarsed.

Someone up above mentioned a bouquet for the Mam - genius! Once your in with the Mam she'll mention you at home frequently. Dad will also approve. It's win-win.