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Forgot phone today.....

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  • 29-02-2008 10:13pm
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    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey..
    Just looking for people's feedback.

    Today, I forgot my phone. I realized when I got to work so I rang my boyf to let him know that I hadn't got it with me. He went crazy and told me to go home and get it. I didn't bother cause I couldn't care less if I have my phone with me or not. Then he wouldn't answer his phone all day when I rang him from my work phone. Is this normal behaviour? Was he right to be annoyed with me?


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    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    PhoneMadness wrote: »
    Was he right to be annoyed with me?

    Eh... no, he has no right to be angry with you.

    He sounds like a controlling weirdo.

    Piece of advice: if your father was a brutal man, or very controlling, seriously analyse the type of men you are choosing.

    I don't believe people "accidently" get into relationships with bad people; I believe it's something people seek.

    Definitely your boyfriend has no right whatsoever to be angry with you and I think this behaviour is a very clear warning sign.


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    Hagar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,793 ✭✭✭✭Hagar


    How did we ever manage without them? Phones I mean. Some of us have become slaves to them. Cast off your chains, and in this case your BF if he doesn't wise up.


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    mikemac
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19,986 ✭✭✭✭mikemac


    What's the problem. I don't carry my phone around with me a lot of days and it's powered off at night. Not sure why I power it off, just a habit I suppose

    If your bf has your work number then there is no issue. In fact, if he wanted to call you at your desk then it's better that your boss sees you talking on the work phone than the mobile for obvious reasons.

    He sounds very controlling, does he show this behaviour in other areas OP?


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    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies, you just kind of confirmed what I thought about him. To be honest, yeh I do think he is controlling. Like for instance, I can never change a plan without it resulting in him getting into a huff/mood. It's just gotten to a stage where I wasn't sure today if I was being the baddy by not driving back home and getting my phone.


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    Cathmandooo
    Registered Users Posts: 17,324 ✭✭✭✭Cathmandooo


    Yeah that's more than a bit crazy :confused: does he usually behave like this? if it was out of character for him then have a chat, maybe you caught him on a bad day, he'd want a very good reason to act like that and for him to never be like that again!


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    andrew1977
    Registered Users Posts: 3,089 ✭✭✭andrew1977


    PhoneMadness wrote: »
    Hey..
    Just looking for people's feedback.

    Today, I forgot my phone. I realized when I got to work so I rang my boyf to let him know that I hadn't got it with me. He went crazy and told me to go home and get it. I didn't bother cause I couldn't care less if I have my phone with me or not. Then he wouldn't answer his phone all day when I rang him from my work phone. Is this normal behaviour? Was he right to be annoyed with me?

    No its not normal behaviour, is he some sort of control freak or maybe he was just having a bad day ?
    To order someone to go home and get a forgotten mobile is weird and freakish, if someone has ordered me to do the same i know what i would have told them .


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    tampopo
    Registered Users Posts: 2,329 ✭✭✭tampopo


    Heck no, it's unacceptable for him to go mad cos you forgot your phone.

    no way, jose... odd in the extreme


    What happens when you drop your toast and it falls butter side down???????


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    Sherifu
    Registered Users Posts: 17,727 ✭✭✭✭Sherifu


    It's not normal and I wouldn't stand for it.


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    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    It's not acceptable behaviour and personally I would say run away. In fact not doing so would be a bad reflection on you. I've seen controlling men(and women) up close so I would advise that you should look very very hard at where this is going. It very rarely changes and usually gets worse. Don't go down that route.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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    humanji
    Registered Users Posts: 19,976 ✭✭✭✭humanji


    I know everyone is saying you should get away from him, but how do you feel about him? Is he someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? Is he normally a great person, but just has the odd "control freak" moment? If so, then maybe you should talk to him. Tell him that on no certain terms will you put up with being ordered around. He might just need to cop on.

    On the other hand, if he's always like this and there are few redeeming qualities, then move on, he wouldn't be worth your time then.


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    estar
    Registered Users Posts: 801 ✭✭✭estar


    he sounds VERY on edge

    if this is out of character tell him he worried you

    if its not his generally irrational.


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    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    humanji while I respect and understand where you're coming from, this kind of behaviour in 99 out of 100 cases gets worse not better. If it does get better it'll be with someone else and not the OP, when he finally if ever cops on that is. A little controlling(which what she describes isnt) is akin to a little violent, it's not on.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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    gcgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,044 ✭✭✭gcgirl


    Wibbs wrote: »
    humanji while I respect and understand where you're coming from, this kind of behaviour in 99 out of 100 cases gets worse not better. If it does get better it'll be with someone else and not the OP, when he finally if ever cops on that is. A little controlling(which what she describes isnt) is akin to a little violent, it's not on.

    have to agree there with Wibbs it only gets worse


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    Lurvely
    Registered Users Posts: 121 ✭✭Lurvely


    Today hes being controlling about a phone, tomorrow what?! This type of behaviour is unacceptable & nobody should put up with it..i dont see what his problem was when you could contact him from your work phone. If i were you id have a serious think about whether you want to be with someone like that.


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    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    PhoneMadness wrote: »
    Thanks for the replies, you just kind of confirmed what I thought about him. To be honest, yeh I do think he is controlling. Like for instance, I can never change a plan without it resulting in him getting into a huff/mood. It's just gotten to a stage where I wasn't sure today if I was being the baddy by not driving back home and getting my phone.

    Question: are you going to break up with this guy or are we going to see you here every six months complaining about your controlling partner?


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    Tobias Greeshman
    Registered Users Posts: 2,082 ✭✭✭Tobias Greeshman


    Ok OP, is there something you're not telling us for this guy to react like this?

    I'll agree with everyone on here, it sounds very controlling and he sounds like trouble. Has he ever reacted like this before, getting angry with you for simple things?


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    finbarrk
    Registered Users Posts: 5,411 ✭✭✭finbarrk


    It's a relationship that I would get out of. As some other people here have said it is likely that he is only going to get worse. Difficult for you maybe but better off in the long run.


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    nevaeh-2die-4
    Registered Users Posts: 1,505 ✭✭✭nevaeh-2die-4


    he was prob worried that he couldnt get in contact with you to have his dinner on the table???

    or he is a control freak and wants tabs on u.


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    IanCurtis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,004 ✭✭✭IanCurtis


    PhoneMadness wrote: »
    Hey..
    Just looking for people's feedback.

    Today, I forgot my phone. I realized when I got to work so I rang my boyf to let him know that I hadn't got it with me. He went crazy and told me to go home and get it. I didn't bother cause I couldn't care less if I have my phone with me or not. Then he wouldn't answer his phone all day when I rang him from my work phone. Is this normal behaviour? Was he right to be annoyed with me?

    This fella sounds like a lunatic.

    Get rid of him as fast as you can.


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    Chochese
    Registered Users Posts: 444 ✭✭Chochese


    nevaeh-2die-4 wrote: »
    or he is a control freak and wants tabs on u.

    I agree... Sounds like he was bulling that he couldn't contact you at a moment's notice and see what you're up to!


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    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    Are you in the latter stages or pregnancy? Are you on an organ waiting list? Is someone close to you or your partner seriously ill at the moment, and your expecting a call about their condition at any minute?

    In any of those cases I would say you should probably have gone home and gotten your phone.

    In any other, I'd say that you can probably live without it for a few hours. Is it a phone or a leash?


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    Boggles
    Registered Users Posts: 39,521 ✭✭✭✭Boggles


    2 Words

    Cuck OO!


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    #24
    Overheal
    Registered Users Posts: 81,628 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Does he often throw a tantrum when he doesn't have the tv remote?

    This one is a goner...


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    Susannahmia
    Registered Users Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    Dump him and run away fast. He is a control freak and will only get worse.


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    humanji
    Registered Users Posts: 19,976 ✭✭✭✭humanji


    But, to be honest, without knowing the full details we can hardly assume the guy is going to get worse. The BF could of had a reason he wanted her to have the phone (maybe a surprise or something). It may, but we just don't know. Without further details, any suggestions are copmletely out of context.


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    Overheal
    Registered Users Posts: 81,628 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    humanji wrote: »
    But, to be honest, without knowing the full details we can hardly assume the guy is going to get worse. The BF could of had a reason he wanted her to have the phone (maybe a surprise or something). It may, but we just don't know. Without further details, any suggestions are copmletely out of context.

    Playing the Devils Advocate aside,
    I can never change a plan without it resulting in him getting into a huff/mood.

    Says it all. Its a recurring pattern and he appears to have failed to explain his reasoning to date. That much we can assume else the OP would not be here asking for plausible conjecture.

    In as much context as we have been given the character described seems to me, likely to have a controlling personality, which has never been a good trait in anyone I've ever met.


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    HJL
    Registered Users Posts: 582 ✭✭✭HJL


    Susannahmia wrote: »
    Dump him and run away fast. He is a control freak and will only get worse.
    +1. Does this guy thinks he owns you or something? Get rid of this nut job.


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