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Girl Friend \ Boy Friend - what annoys you the most

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  • #62
    b3t4
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,325 ✭✭✭b3t4


    I don't know why but my guy finds it very difficult to close cubboard doors and drawers after him. I really just don't get it. He's pretty good at closing them in the apartment now but if we stay anywhere else he has a major relapse :D It's like a huge gust of wind has come in and opened every single cubboard in the place. It truly amazes me :)

    We're doing pretty good other than that.

    A.


  • #63
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,215 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Some of these posts are pretty depressing...


  • #64
    Mr Benevolent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,456 ✭✭✭✭Mr Benevolent


    Some of these posts are pretty depressing...

    That's because Irish men in general can be slightly thoughtless without really meaning to be. I've done it myself, and still do on occasion.

    I used to annoy the ex sometime fierce. Wouldn't go out with her, didn't drink (she did, and I do now), never really socialised at all, didn't have any friends etc. Problem is, she never, ever told me when she was annoyed or frustrated (I was only 20 and it was my first relationship). She used to do all the washing up... you know the rest of the story. We broke up after 2 years, half my fault and half hers. Took a long time to get over it because I didn't understand it at the time.

    My current girlfriend is great - she's much more assertive, easier to talk to, doesn't take any **** from me but still manages to be loving, affectionate and generally great. She's twatted me over the head on occasions and we've had our misunderstandings, but in general the improvement in communication (and me becoming a fair bit more mature) more than makes up for any minor issues. The sex is a lot better too. Granted, we're not living together at the moment which makes things easier, but moving to Australia for a year should sort that out!

    Basically I've learned that it's best to monitor how the relationship is going and correct any negative trends. One example was her tendency to correct me on everything in front of family and friends, generally unnessecary stuff. Mine was to make stupid pun jokes that some like and some don't. She doesn't like them, so I stopped doing them and she stopped correcting me. Much better.

    At the end of the day, little issues can become big issues. Best to stop them in their tracks.

    As an aside, she's a chef and loves cooking. On top of that, she's tall, leggy, blonde and busty. Coupled with her personality, she's perfect for me.


  • #65
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,215 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    It's the living together aspects that depress me...


  • #66
    Papillon87
    Registered Users Posts: 442 ✭✭Papillon87


    Dudess wrote: »
    It's the living together aspects that depress me...

    +1

    So much to look forward to :pac:

    On an aside, when I was with my ex (whom I didn't live with but stayed over at most twice a week) I used to leave my shampoo/shower stuff and the like in his en-suite. Pretty standard. After a while began to notice my shower gel and shampoo rapidly depleting- and there was no way I was there often enough for them to be doing so from MY usage alone. I jokingly said it to him one day and he said it wasn't him (in hindsight I know this to be true as he had an aversion to the scent of the shower gel I used....Original Source Lime...zingtastic!), and casually mentioned as an afterthought "***** sometimes robs it and leaves it back" - his sister whom he lived with. EH! I didn't know what to say......"um, right, k". Is that normal!? Not like I'd have a problem if she was stuck...but, routinely?!

    Then his other sister moved in for a while with her baby and used up all my baby shampoo on her son's hair. :o

    Thanks guys. :mad:


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  • #67
    Trinity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,662 ✭✭✭Trinity


    Dudess wrote: »
    It's the living together aspects that depress me...


    Its tough going it really is. In fact i'd prefer to live on my own and see himself a few times a week but not gonna happen with the kids.

    I am a better person when i'm on myown. More independant, more relaxed, less stressed. And its probably not down to him but down to my personality.

    When hes here i expect him to help and it causes rows. When hes not here (i.e. we break up!) i actually dont mind doing everything myself and take pleasure in it. he reckons i get lazy when hes here, i reckon i just want things to be more fair. There is more work to do when hes around, more cooking, cleaning, washing etc

    My other always told me in relation to relationships - if you want to know me come and live with me. you wont truely know a person until you do.


  • #68
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,215 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Trinity1 wrote: »
    Its tough going it really is. In fact i'd prefer to live on my own and see himself a few times a week
    That's the way it is for me - and it's staying that way!


  • #69
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    I'd be fairly easy going but really its down to compatibility. If you take out the male female dynamic, looking around at my friends, male and female, I can think of maybe three of them I could live with day to day on a practical basis. One woman, two blokes. The rest we would kill each other. Actually there are people I know that would be acquaintances, that I could probably live with easier than some friends or lovers. The romance angle can lull you into a somewhat false sense of practical compatibility. Looking back on exes I was mad about, I could live day to day with only one.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #70
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    shellyboo wrote: »
    That's all very informative... but it was my understanding that this thread is about things that annoy us about our partners.

    It's about what annoys you the most.
    shellyboo wrote: »
    My ex-bf - who I was talking about - did not have dry hair, or require conditioner, or even intend to use conditioner, but persisted in using mine without knowing what it actually was. Which was annoying. Which was my point. I wasn't talking in general terms.

    lol.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgjWfOMAtGQ

    Perhaps the reason he didn't have dry hair was because he was using yore conditioner. ;):pac:


  • #71
    kazkiely
    Registered Users Posts: 31 ✭kazkiely


    He's after getting very scruffy. Not a dumpable offence, I know, but! I always said I'd never go with a guy who wore tracksuits all the time and in fairness he does wear O'Neills or Cantos which aren't too bad but they still make him look scruffy and immature.

    He called over to my place the other day wearing nice jeans, Cons, smart coat and scarf because he'd "nothing else to wear" and I felt like hopping him there and then. He looks so handsomer (real word) in smarter clothes :D

    Still love him though :P


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  • #72
    yay_for_summer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 86 ✭✭yay_for_summer


    Chinafoot wrote: »
    He takes ages to make a decision on anything.

    +1

    aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrgggghhhh:o


  • #73
    minxie
    Registered Users Posts: 4,064 ✭✭✭minxie


    sport......
    its getting impossible to get near the telly..
    he had a full day of it today an hes gone to bed now (tired he said) hmmmm ????
    so its now mine and theres nothing on...:mad:


  • #74
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    homerun_homer wrote: »
    The pure rudeness of the last gf. It was embarrassing at many a time.

    We sure that could have been cured if you had let her off after the first time she was rude.... Doh!!!


  • #75
    Kinetic^
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,249 ✭✭✭✭Kinetic^


    I can deal with all the mood swings, hormone related or otherwise, teh whining, even the uncovered food in the fridge but why oh fùcking why do you lose so much hair? It gets everywhere and it clogs up the shower. I use my sponge and I end up hairier then before! :rolleyes: (I'm not dating teenwolf either)
    Dudess wrote: »
    That's the way it is for me - and it's staying that way!

    Can you have a few words with my wimmen? I wish to revert back to what you have mentioned above. That would be great! k, thx, byes!


  • #76
    beautiation
    Closed Accounts Posts: 381 ✭✭beautiation


    The jealousy. Didn't realise quite how bad it was until we joined the Gender Equality society and she started wanting us to leave after two weeks because there were too many women there... anything that can make her that stupid is pretty fricking worrying, cos she's not usually like that at all.

    EDIT: Conditioner isn't a fancy word for shampoo?!? :eek:


  • #77
    John Mason
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 10,661 ✭✭✭✭John Mason


    i dont understand how you can be with someone who annoys you all the time.

    If my OH does something i dont like i tell him and he doesnt do it again.


  • #78
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Oh I've had the jealous ones. Nightmare. One was convinced I was sleeping with everyone. I honestly don't know where she thought I got the energy.:D

    Mood swings if extreme drive me absolutely nuts. Everyone has bad days, but irrational madness to an excessive degree is a deal breaker. One I remember always blamed her hormones. The same hormones that would magically switch off when one of her mates showed up. :rolleyes: That has been a sadly common one actually. If they can make the effort for them they can make the effort for me or it's me go walkabout time.

    Women(and I know men who do this too) who blame all their woes on others, reserving specific blame for the guy(gal) in their lives. Walkabout time again.

    Harpies.

    And my big bugbear, women who are never satisfied. There's always something to moan about, even when there's not. It feels like trying to stop leaks in a colander. Shows serious lack of insight and a tendency to self indulgence. The biggest dealbreaker of all for me.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #79
    homerun_homer
    Registered Users Posts: 7,024 ✭✭✭homerun_homer


    Wibbs wrote: »
    And my big bugbear, women who are never satisfied. There's always something to moan about, even when there's not. It feels like trying to stop leaks in a colander. Shows serious lack of insight and a tendency to self indulgence. The biggest dealbreaker of all for me.

    I hate this too. Last year I took my then gf to London for 2 nights for a quick getaway. While there she asked if we could meet and hang around with her sister and husband. I did want some alone time together but thought it wouldn't be any harm so I obliged and we all went for dinner and drinks. Good night.
    At the end the sister asked if we wanted to meet the next day and my ex said yeah. Later she asked if I was alright with that and I said "I am happy to do whatever you want to do" so we did that, I enjoyed the day.

    That night she starts moaning to me about how we didn't have enough alone time together and that we shouldn't have met up with her sister - it was as if she said "we wasted our time". It seemed to be said in a way like I could have prevented it, yet if I said no to meeting up then she'd be annoyed that I didn't want to spend more time with her family. you just can't win sometimes


  • #80
    nialo
    Registered Users Posts: 610 ✭✭✭nialo


    "Yes dear!" two words that will just get you in trouble, if not instantly then at a later date for not being more assertive! So true you just cant win! :)

    As for ppl that complain about living together and himself using the conditioner! do you buy everything seperately? or share the costs!!


  • #81
    shellyboo
    Registered Users Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    pink fluffy bunny wrote: »
    i dont understand how you can be with someone who annoys you all the time.

    If my OH does something i dont like i tell him and he doesnt do it again.

    Aren't you lucky you have him so well-trained? :rolleyes: Sometimes things annoy us about EVERYONE in our lives, friends, family, partners... more often than not they're just niggles. The ability to overlook them is what makes the relationship strong.
    nialo wrote: »
    As for ppl that complain about living together and himself using the conditioner! do you buy everything seperately? or share the costs!!

    You think I would trust a man to buy my shampoo and conditioner for me? He'd probably come home with Tesco own brand shower gel instead :) "Is it not the same thing, no?" :rolleyes:

    Of course I buy it myself, why would I be complaining abut someone using something that's not mine?


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  • #82
    LeahBaby
    Closed Accounts Posts: 699 ✭✭✭LeahBaby


    Only annoying thing I can say about my loverly man is that he is a total yes man.

    "Jack, will you carry my new bed upstairs for me cause I'm watching the footie."

    "Sure thing,bro!"

    Too good natured that people take advantage of him!


  • #83
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    homerun_homer wrote: »
    you just can't win sometimes
    Actually you can, by politely leaving them as you did. You can try the take over complete control method and it works, but why go out with someone that daft?

    It's not a gender thing either. I know women who are going out with guys who would be equally irritating. The male version tends towards general bumbling and/or clamming up. All picture no sound types. But I would have to say some women specialise in a particularly idiotic type of that dunnowhatIwantbutitsnotthisitus.

    Your example is a good one. Been there. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. The funny thing is, like I said some respond to the guy not trying in the first place. One ex very similar to yours, I had to walk away from that in the end. The next guy she went with, took absolutely none of her guff and he would either ignore her or walk away for a time. The sad thing is she seemed genuinely "happier" with that. Whole other thread on the nature of insecurity I would say. Of course these are extremes, but it saddens me to see how many out there have those extremes quite often.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #84
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    shellyboo wrote: »
    Aren't you lucky you have him so well-trained? :rolleyes: Sometimes things annoy us about EVERYONE in our lives, friends, family, partners... more often than not they're just niggles. The ability to overlook them is what makes the relationship strong.
    Agreed.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #85
    Sarah**
    Registered Users Posts: 531 ✭✭✭Sarah**


    Hmmmm where to begin!

    His inability to stand up for himself to his friends or to mine, he lets them walk all over him!!

    His choice of mates, they are just freaks!

    His laid back attitude, like our apt and car could have been burnt down to nothing and his reply would be we'll sort it out tomorrow! His brother just got in serious trouble with the gaurds recently and his attitude is.....everything will be fine, dont worry!:mad::mad::mad:

    I mean how can someone go through life with blinkers on, and he doesnt understand what pressure is in work.

    Also i know this is going to sound so ridiculous......lynx!! I have bought him several aftershaves and nice stuff but he still chooses to have a bath in the fcukin stuff!!

    Also when he is annoyed over something i do, he just goes into this offish mood and doesnt want to tell me whats up.....i mean if im getting on his wick i would like to know what im doing so i can stop.....:D

    But then i guess thats why they say oppsites attract!! ;)


  • #86
    *Dallas
    Closed Accounts Posts: 419 ✭✭*Dallas


    everything is 'i'll do it tomorrow' .. he has 3 piles of his clothes in our apartment, which i point blank refuse to do for him.. but its 'ah their not harming anyone' ... eh their harming me when i fall over them and nearly split my head open!!

    one day they'll all end up in a black bag out on the street lol :D


  • #87
    Puddleduck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Puddleduck


    Being ignored during tiffs

    Huffs

    When you ask them to do something and its like they do it wrong on purpose, then I lose the head and it results in a huff.

    Snoring or jiggling round in the bed like theirs ants biting them, dear god, just go asleep and stay still!!!!! Or that snore where its loud, then dies away and you settle down for a sleep..then it comes back!!! Aarrrg

    All in all Ive got it pretty good.


  • #88
    Anti
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,401 ✭✭✭✭Anti


    Kinetic^ wrote: »
    I can deal with all the mood swings, hormone related or otherwise, teh whining, even the uncovered food in the fridge but why oh fùcking why do you lose so much hair? It gets everywhere and it clogs up the shower. I use my sponge and I end up hairier then before! :rolleyes: (I'm not dating teenwolf either)



    I call my girlfriends hairballs....Tribbles . If i lost the ammount of hair she does on a daily basis id be bald !!


  • #89
    Rosealee
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭Rosealee


    :P
    when having a row they just walk away drives me crazy.. I pefer some 1 to stand an shout at me Lol


  • #90
    Enaghan01
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭Enaghan01


    Not sure how to describe this but I'm under a lot of pressure lately, trying to find a job, fix up and rent out a house and my mother is not well (in and out of hospital a bit). As such I haven't had much time lately to spend with my girlfriend. I thought she'd understand and say "that's fair enough and I understand that you're under pressure" but all I get is that "you're not spending enough time with me" and "you need to get your priorities right". Christ almighty, you're nearly think that I wanted to be in this situation. I'd much rather be spending time with her

    I don't know if she is being genuinely selfish and thoughtless or if she just doesn't want to share me. I thought being in a relationship was about supporting each other but I think she missed that lesson. I know I'm not the perfect boyfriend but I do my best and I know if she was in this situation, I'd give her all the help I could. It's not like I'm asking her to help me or go out of her way for me, quite the opposite. I'm just asking her to understand that I won't be able to spend much time with her in the next couple of weeks. And all I get is hassle that I don't need at the moment

    Just needed a rant, can't do it to friends and family. This boards thing is great, feeling better already


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  • #91
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,071 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Insecure, needs validation of herself and the relationship attention type. Easily spotted because they don't consider the reasons you're not giving the attention. OK if you're beering with your mates instead of her etc, damn right she should take issue. Heavy life stuff and an ill parent? Eh no. Self centered, emotionally insecure and not self aware.

    Bad traits. been there too. It's all about them. They ignore copernicus and think the universe revolves around them. I've had two extreme ones that way. Nip it in the bud. Do not pander to her. It will make her worse. Be cool and try to explain(just once) you cannot give her the normal level of attention at this time. If this doesn't work then have a rethink. It will be a major headwreck down the line, as it will never be enough(like the never satisfied types). You have your life and she should have hers and she shouldn't need constant validation.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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