If you could have told your future self something, what would it be?

jam_mac_jam · 17-03-2012 5:03pm

Don't ever smoke.

daenerysstormborn3 · 17-03-2012 9:26pm

I would go back to when I was 18 and tell myself to start looking after my body then rather than waiting until it got out of hand and impossible to control (or so it seems).

jesus_thats_gre · 18-03-2012 12:03pm

Realise that you get bored quickly and that the high performance that you exhibit early on will taper off unless you up the work level. That and don't get fat.

loalae · 18-03-2012 12:24pm

I would tell my 16 year old self:

- you're not ugly, at all! But when you talk about the way you look, you're boring.

- Forgive your cousin, she's messed up at the moment.

- College isn't going to work out the way you want it to, but do it anyway.

- It's ok to be shy and reserved. You're not weird, you're you.

- People like you, accept it.

boomkatalog · 19-03-2012 4:08pm

I'd tell my teenage self:

-don't worry about the past, its not relevant to who you are now. Ye'll be friends some day

-dont eat all that crap, it WILL start to catch up with you, just like mom said :pac:
-dont ever be afraid to tell people where to go, nobody has the right to make you feel uncomfortable!
-no, your boobs aren't going to get any bigger but who cares, you've got great legs

-just because someone has had a hard life doesn't make it ok for them to be a jerk to you.
-mom loves you, she doesn't mean to be so hurtful, she just doesn't think before she speaks.
-chin up blondey, that 'flaw' isn't a flaw at all, its what makes you you!

Wonder if I'll have anything to say to my 21 year old self in ten years time

jellygems · 19-03-2012 5:32pm

the only person whos opinion matters is your own

ragdoll91 · 19-03-2012 8:52pm

This is a really lovely thread

To my 15 year old self:
No, you don't have a perfect body. And all the dieting and exercising in the world isn't going to change that. But in a few years you'll look in the mirror and be genuinely happy with what you see.

Your brother will be one of your best friends. Crazy I know, but you have more in common than you realise and he's really great.

You, E and S won't actually be best friends for ever. E will suddenly decide she doesn't want to be part of your life and it will break your heart, and you and S will simply grow apart. So start making other friends now, it's hard to suddenly be alone.

In contradiction, don't panic too much about not having good school friends. Keep studying hard because when you get the points it's worth it and when you go to college you will meet the most amazing people who will make you become a better version of yourself and love you for you. Really I promise!

Don't stress about not having a boyfriend. Don't be afraid to have fun, you have time to be sensible later. Don't kiss too many boys in coppers, and DON'T kiss the boy who lives next door to the girl you're going home with....mistake! On the other hand, don't be afraid to kiss that friend who's too shy to make the first move, it'll be worth it!

And finally, ignore the rules. Don't worry about what you 'should' do. Text him first, stay up all night before a 9am lecture, cry to anyone (you'll be surprised how many people will be there to wipe up the tears), put yourself forward - you are so much more confident than you realise, and no one is judging you.

Posy · 19-03-2012 9:11pm

You're 12 years old.
You are about to have a wonderful opportunity to learn French, science, art, be taught about history and generally have a lot of fun and make wonderful friends.
Please do not spend five years sulking about having to go to school, hating it and not learning anything useful.
Don't wish away your school time. You have summers off and no bills to pay or rent to worry about.
And really enjoy that summer when we had a heat wave and almost three months of constant sun. It will not happen again for a LONG TIME.

lolita60 · 20-03-2012 2:10am

To My 16 year old self:

-Go to your lectures, there's more to College life than Partying!!
-If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you!!
-Listen to Mom... She's ALWAYS right!!
-Don't go to Rome!
-Don't Move in with him, neither of ye really want to anyway!!:rolleyes:
-Save!!!!
-Dont put up with the lies
-Dont be so stubborn!!!!
-Cherish the memories!!
-Make the Coffee without complaining!!!!!!:(

tinyk68 · 21-03-2012 3:16pm

Chin up! You won't always be the ugly duckling who's too shy to look anyone in the eye. Some day very soon you will blossom and all those people who overlooked you will look twice;)

sleepyescapade · 22-03-2012 7:25am

Hang in there, once you finish school life will be pretty good!

Try not to be so upset at your first major breakup, you'll meet someone more suited to you and things will be awesome!

otwb · 22-03-2012 2:33pm

To 17 year old me,

Once you dump them, don't take them back
Go on, ask him out....you'll only find out that he was crazy about you 5 years too late
Don't buy the apartment with someone else
Pick the other option on the job form
Spend more time with your Dad
Despite all the above, things will work out pretty well

meganj · 22-03-2012 4:06pm

To me pre-13:

He will come back eventually, so get up off the staircase and stop looking at the door waiting for him to come for your birthday. Today is not that day.

13-15

Don't beat yourself up
Don't worry about people not liking you, you're awesome!
It was not your fault he left
It's not your fault he came back
Your Mother loves you, no matter what you decide

Me 15-18

Don't start smoking
You will get a boyfriend (well he'll be 29 so manfriend)
Your friends are not all having sex, trust me
You will get through this
Punishing yourself for the things that happened before you are born is unhealthy
You did not ruin your Mother's life, stop thinking it.

Me 18+

You will get your leaving cert
You will get your BA
You will get your Masters
You're going to meet two of the best friends you'll ever have in college, one will encourage you to lie on the floor covered in chocolate wrappers to it looks to your roommate that you have had an overdose, the other will pretend to be sensible but make you do it anyway
M will get sick, so for gods sake look after her while you can
You cannot prevent bad things happening to good people
You will fall in love
You will try and drive him away
He won't go
You will be happy, eventually
Love yourself, so many other people do

Smashhits · 22-03-2012 5:37pm

At 17

Take that opportunity to travel and work abroad, it' not your responsibility to be there for everyone else.

Don't start smoking.

Keep singing it's the only true thing you love and get pleasure from. You will miss it in the future.

Go to college.

At 19

Be careful of that tall dark handsome guy you'll meet, he'll break your heart. Have fun but don't get too serious too soon!!

At 35

Be prepared for the worst 2 years of your life, it's hard and you'll hurt so bad but you will get through it and be stronger for it.

pinkhop · 22-03-2012 9:33pm

Stop being shy and enter those gymnastic comps
Do not bottle things up
RESPECT yourself
Wear your retainer.. Pleeeease!
Finish that conversation with your friend. You wont wonder if you could have saved his life then.
Do not get involved and fall in love with him.. he will never leave her

ladypip · 22-03-2012 9:58pm

Id go back to 12 and say

. Stay swimming you love it so much and your future self would be so much skinnier if you do!

. Dont treat your first love like an Idiot he really wasn't and even 7 years after you split you'll regret it.

. Decide you want to be a teacher early and go to college straight out of school, That gap year you plan will become an 11 year waste of your life.

. Travel before your 23

. Your friends are like your sisters and still will be in 16 years time, support them, love them, the **** will hit the fan for you all but hold tight.

. Your mother is RIGHT go to the doc about it and it will all work out.

Ahhh if only i really could send this back to my twelve year old self

ArtOfEscape · 22-03-2012 10:21pm

pinkhop wrote: »

Wear your retainer.. Pleeeease!

Oh God, me too!

LegacyUser · 22-03-2012 10:45pm

Summer 2001- Just ring them or text them and meet up, this is not going to work.
You will make friends in college, and male friends, yes really!!
you are not over weight at all- seriously! just be positive about yourself.
Do the course you want, you'll make some amazing friends for life.

At 16, can't do much to an adult to help them but Ring and text C as often as you can, tell him he's great, because he wont be around for long unfortunatley.
Thank Mr. R for all his help because he is reason you will be happy next august.
Study hard especially irish so no repeats required for future future course.

Sigh.

tatabubbly · 23-03-2012 1:37am

Your boobs are big, get over it
Who cares if your curvy, your awesome!
Your self-worth is not about your boyfriend but you
You are uber-smart-alic... Congrats!
Moisturise and use SPF you fool!!

Honey-ec · 23-03-2012 12:12pm

pinkhop wrote: »

Wear your retainer.. Pleeeease!

ArtOfEscape wrote: »

Oh God, me too!

Me three :mad:

awec · 23-03-2012 12:21pm

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Michellenman · 23-03-2012 5:41pm

When it ends the first time, don't go back. Save yourself the heartache.

silverdolphin · 27-03-2012 7:30pm

My child self:

Participate in sports such as football; basketball; karate and gymnastics, they will prevent you from becoming socially awkward and misanthropic.
Concentrate on work in school, especially Maths. Don't mind your mother and sister if they make you feel bad about the subject, they don't know what you're capable of. If the subject is hard, don't be afraid to admit it to the teacher.
Learn music instruments such as the piano and the guitar. It's imperative that you start early in childhood, you might want to become a musician when you grow up as you love listening to songs.
Sing in public, some people may think you have a great voice.

My teenage self:

Read more books and newspapers.
You're not as smart as you think.
Don't choose journalism, choosing an Arts degree does not always mean that you have limited career prospects.
Seek counselling immediately, you're too anti-social and you need help.
Stop being lazy.

ComfyKnickers · 30-03-2012 3:06pm

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westies4ever · 30-03-2012 3:11pm

love this!

look after your teeth and skin
dont worry about boys - it'll happen
never put a boy before a friend
study!!!!
save - even a little bit
take risks and put a lot of thought into what you want to do
REALLY think before you open your gob
learn to drive asap
travel, travel, travel.

Lorrs33 · 30-03-2012 10:09pm

Mine would be:

Make the most of your college years
Don't walk out of your very first job (at least hand in your notice!)
Open up a savings account before the age of 19 and save like mad!
Don't give your number to that eejit at 30STM concert
Take the job at IT Tallaght (even if they were clutching at straws)
"The one" is closer than you think, i.e., sitting in front of you in Irish!
Enjoy your first trip to New York more
Take care of your teeth, especially the loose one which is about to come out
You ARE smart
Really live!

cactuspaw · 03-04-2012 7:42pm

study art instead of social studies, you will see more 2:1's the "pass by compensations"
when you win a big blob of money, don't think your great by giving most of it away, go on a really good holiday.
that guy your mad into is a gobsh1te

MsHolloway · 03-04-2012 8:54pm

It would really be just one thing:

For the love of God, please please please Do NOT sweat the small stuff!!

Fiona · 03-04-2012 9:09pm

pinkhop wrote: »

[*]Do not get involved and fall in love with him.. he will never leave her
[/LIST]

+1

McChubbin · 03-04-2012 9:48pm

To my 12 year old self:
Ben and Jerry's ice cream will not make you happy. Put down the spoon, back away from the frozen food isle and get on a ****ing treadmill, you chubby ****er.

If you could have told your future self something, what would it be?

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