September 2014 Babies Club

Thanks Karmella it was fab!!!

Is anyone getting really sporadic twinges down below, like pulling and stretching. Really started yesterday for me, book says growing pains ....

I get those twinges too. They seem to come in spurts, like I'll have a few one day and none for a while. The first sore one freaked me out but I guess it is just stuff growing and stretching in there.

14 weeks now for me. The last 7ish weeks have gone by faster than I expected, that's what sleeping all the time does! Thankfully the exhaustion and nausea are easing off a bit now. Here's to trimester number 2.

Well ladies I've had an absolute roller coaster of a week, major moan ahead...

Had the scan and that was all lovely, and then on Saturday my husband and I pretty much split up. It's been a very very long time coming, we've both been in denial for ages. I'm so angry with myself for getting pregnant again, and with him for agreeing to even try. He's been out of the house since Saturday, and trying to find somewhere to stay now.

I'm devastated for our 3 yr old, as is he, he's the only reason he didn't leave before. He says I deserve someone better who will look after me, but that's a bit rich, like who am I going to meet at 40 with 2 young kids in tow?? I'm 38 now. We're not even married 4 years but have been together for 15. I feel like it's all been a waste and for nothing.

But we are trying to be calm and mature and not let it descend into bitterness & hatred. I don't know is there any hope for us. It just sucks really :-(

I've been a mess all week, I was only able to face going back to work today. But I have some great friends who really stepped up and looked after me and my son over the weekend. They are all his friends originally, but are all disgusted with him.

I haven't told my family yet - only just announced the pregnancy a week ago!! It's going to break my father's heart and I can't do it to him yet. He's had to deal with my brother go thru the messiest most horrible break up & divorce over the last 7 years, and now this will kill him. At 75 the poor man should be able to kick back and just enjoy his grand kids with no stress and he does for the most part (there are 8 so far!). I'm his youngest and the only girl...

Real life sucks :-(. Thanks for letting me tell my tale ... I'm going to try and enjoy this pregnancy but it's going to be so tough.

Karmella what a week from hell. I can't even imagine what you're going through coping with the pregnancy and husband issues at the same time. As madeinamerica said feel free to post here as we're all here to support each other.

Pregnancy is such a stressful for you and your partner at the best of time and can put stress on the strongest if relationships. Maybe now you're not under the same roof would be a good time to go for counselling? I came to the realisation a few years ago that sometimes we don't have the skills to solve problems ourselves which results in us following the same pattern yet expecting a different outcome. A fresh perspective from a professional may out you on a path you never expected, whether that be together or alone. Please PM if you'd like to chat or anything and hold on to the great support system you have x

Thanks ladies for all your kind words ... In some ways it's like a fog has been lifted, and I am seeing clearly for the first time in a very long time. Deep down I think i knew he didn't love me (he finally admitted it on Saturday) but I just would not accept it - he also convinced me otherwise every time I brought it up. He is a coward who wouldn't admit it to himself even. And outside of all that, he is a wonderful dad, our son adores him, he's just a sh1t husband.

Anyway, just taking it one day at a time for now, have almost forgotten about the little bean inside me! Definite bump there now, I finally caved and broke into the maternity wardrobe on Sunday!

Maybe TMI but my boobs are itchy as hell today!!!!

FurBabyMomma wrote: »

Oh I'm the same, my boobs have been sore and itchy since day one. And I'm really struggling with fatigue, by 7pm I'm so exhausted my body goes numb and I can't move!

My boobs and around my mid area can get mad itchy too. I've tried using dry skin moisturiser but it's only ok. My other half was in Ireland for a fortnight recently and a very thoughtful friend who is a new mum sent him back over with some great cream for me, "Palmers" for stretch marks I think. It feels really good! (And she also gave him some Sudocream for when the baba arrives, in case we can't get it here, she is such a dote).

9lbs 6 is HUGE!!

How many weeks is everybody now? I am almost 14 weeks. Had my booking app last week and consultant said that baby looks perfect and all is well. I still have moments of anxiety though. Sometimes I wish we could have a daily sneak peak inside us to check up on the baby!

14 weeks tomorrow and house is a disaster area too, I can manage my days work but I'm confined to the sofa come evening. I have three energetic dogs who are being very patient with me, they normally get walked an hour and a half each day but down to an hour atm as just can't manage it in the evenings. Really wish we all had that little oven door, 21 week scan seems miles away!

Ooh let me know how that goes Karmella, where I am you can do either pregnancy yoga or aqua aerobics - annoyingly they are on the same night so you have to choose one or the other. Thinking about starting with the yoga next week so would love to hear how people find it!

Got our 15week check up, just took my weight, blood pressure and listened to the heart beat on a little hand held thing (dunno what it was called). Pretty quick really. Heart beat was flying it! I've recently got a rash on my hand and shin, doc reckons it's fungal (ewww) and recommended a cream. the joys of pregnancy immune system. All good though!

madeinamerica wrote: »

Happy Mothers-to-be Day! How is everyone doing?

Happy mothers day!!
Feeling better 17 weeks.
Off to worknow ......

Hey ladies, hope ye all enjoy the day May as well take advantage even if ye are mommies to be!!!

Daddy has just taken the small man out for the day so I can relax and do nothing. Bliss!

(must not look at all the house work that needs to be done .... Must not look) Will probably try and catch up with a couple friends later...

15 weeks tomorrow, the energy is starting to return finally.

comongethappy wrote: »

What time do you ladies stay awake till in the evening?

17 weeks in & I'm still struggling to stay awake past 10pm.

Will this pass?

:-) probably not !!!
Is this your first second third or ....

Im on no 3 and i do be struggling at 10 but i feel now its best to go when the body says its tired as if u get overtired you suffer next day .
I find with two young girls who are non stop too and dont let me sit for a minute so i wish then at those times i went to bed early !!!!

comongethappy wrote: »

What time do you ladies stay awake till in the evening?

17 weeks in & I'm still struggling to stay awake past 10pm.

Will this pass?

Even before getting pregnant I'd head for bed at 10pm. I'm up early though, usually at 06:30 so I need to. I'm in my 14th week now and am in my bed at 10 pm every night.