Originally Posted by Karmella
12 days in and baby seems to be getting more and more colicky :-( I find it so difficult to wind him at all, and he only feeds for a few minutes at a time. As soon as I put him down he's screaming again. I pick him up and he starts rooting so put him on the boob and he is trying to drink while wailing at the same time. It's like he's starving but in pain at the same time.
Usually if I manage to wind him at all he just spews instead of burping. For the first week or so he spewed after every feed so I thought maybe he had reflux, but now I just wonder if it's just colic. He's definitely way worse at night time.
My older son was a bit colicky aswell but not this bad and after 6 weeks I switched to a comfort formula because neither of us were happy. I wonder if I'm putting too much pressure on myself to breastfeed this little fella for the same amount of time. I can't pay any attention to my older son and I'm so exhausted.
I think I feel bad about switching because the crying aside, he has no issue latching on, my nipples aren't sore or anything, so I don't have a lot of the issues that mums find when they try to feed, and I have no idea if I switch now if it will make any difference to his colic.
I don't know what to do
Hey Karmella, I know somewhat what you are going through. I had lowish platelets at delivery and lost 600 cc blood, so I'm running anemic now. I had fever during labour, so both baby and I were on IV antibiotics and I had a precautionary prescription to take at home, which has left me with diahorea. I was four days in hospital, two for induction/labour and two for after, getting on average 2 hrs sleep per day. He was on me literally all night, fell asleep twice for an hour each time while side nursing, panicking that I could have smothered him. Every time I put him in the crib, he would scream under the night. During the day he would sleep in it for 3 hrs, but I couldn't sleep then due to all the noise. on the 2nd night with him I broke down, felt like a complete failure as I went to get a bottle from midwife so I could sleep.
I had him on me for the 17 - 22 times a day since coming home 2 days ago for a total of 4 hrs each day. He would only sleep when held, which was fine as visitors wanted to hold him, and cried all night despite soother. He developed red spots in his urine, no dirty nappies. I felt like an absolute failure again as something was wrong and I had to give him a bottle at 3 this morning so I could get 3 hrs sleep
Went back to Holles St this morning for heel prick, and they confirmed he was feeding off me way too much and the red spots were uric acid as he was dehydrated as my body hasn't let down milk yet, most likely due to me being run down. In the 4 days since born he had alreafy lost his 10%. They said I was right give bottle and I am to bf ever 3 hrs for 15 mins on each breast and give formula when still showing signs of hunger till milk comes down.
I felt so relieved to be told that it didn't matter what websites said about bf, at this time, no matter how often I demand feed, I am not enough for my baby but a combination is best for both of us. Two midwives took me into a room to calm me down and reassure me that I was doing great and not to be so hard on myself.
I think sometimes books and the Internet can make moms feel so bad about themselves. No baby and mother is the same and I am just starting to realise I need to go with what I feel is right for baby, me, and hubby. He tried to reassure me so many times but I wouldn't hear him as I was caught in a viscous circle of breastfeeding advocates opinions, sleep deprivation, and baby blues.
I am still pro breastfeeding, and will continue even if it's combination feeding. However, once your baby is happy, healthy and loved- that's what matters. So like was told to me Karmella, you're doing great, don't be so hard on yourself, and do whatever works best for your family :-)