Pregnant and Considering Adoption

Hi,
well im not going to give you any advise as i think this is something you alone can decide, also i've never had any experience of adoption so its something ive never gone through. Im sure you'l make the right decision for you and your baby. just wanted to say i think your very brave and best of luck with whatever you decide. I have kids and they are alot of hard work and i think the most thing they need is love, material things dont matter so much as you would think. if you have family perhaps speak with them and depending on situation father of baby, you may find solutions there that you hadnt considered but i dont know your situation.
good luck, and hope everything works out for the best for all concerned.
Bigalee.

baby1213 wrote: »

Im just wondering has anyone on here had a child adopted and how it has effected them.

Hope to hear back from someone

Hello, baby1213. I gave my daughter up for adoption, 24 years ago now, but, similar to bigalee, I feel this has to be your decision, so I'd be hesitant to give advice.

The only reason I agreed to my daughter being adopted was because I discovered (when I went to the adoption agency for a chat) that semi-open adoption was an option. That swung my mind from "no bloody way" to "I'll allow myself consider it". Without that I wouldn't have been able to give the go ahead. It has turned out to be tremendously important and I've never missed a beat in being a presence in my daughter's life for the last 24 years. For birthdays, whenever I travelled to another country, when she started/finished school, exams, etc I was able to send a gift and a letter and/or card. I would highly recommend considering maintaining contact (letter box contact) if you do make the decision to go ahead.

I could rant a mile a minute right now; as anyone who knows my posts knows, I can rant a mile a minute on this subject sometimes , but I wouldn't know how to stop and this is not the right time to ramble.

Be prepared to fall in love though, no matter which road you decide to travel down. I wasn't expecting that to happen - but it did, and I'm very pleased with that. I've cried rivers, since I said goodbye to my baby. And I've felt tremendous pride when she sends me a short letter and a photo of herself (as she has done a handful of times) and I see what a beautiful, contented and kind young woman she hs turned out to be. And no end of delight when her mother used send me photos all during her growing up years. I have a box full - they're beautiful.

See, I've started to ramble. I shall reign myself in and wish you all the best. I hope you have someone (or someones) you can talk to. Good luck, take care.