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Help needed to overcome my stutter

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  • 10-10-2014 4:32am
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    readytorock
    Registered Users Posts: 118 ✭✭


    Hi,

    Im 26 and have battled a stutter for many years.
    I attended the mcguire programme and initially it was great but found it didnt get to the route problem so relapses were very frequent.

    I dont really stutter around my girlfriend and friends, only in particular situations. I am fully aware that it stems from anxiety that i feel regarding a particular situation or a particular person or group I am speaking to.

    Im trying to get to the route cause this time and hope for assistance to basically retrain my brain through hypnosis and the sub conscious etc.

    If there is anybody who can help me, or knows anybody who works in the area of Cognitive behavioural therapy or hypnosis please let me know.

    Willing to try anything at this stage as I'm starting a business and its a constant struggle not knowing when the stutter will be fine and when it will attack!! Again all linked to my mindset and anxiety!

    Thanks for the time


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    Paulownia
    Registered Users Posts: 590 ✭✭✭Paulownia


    readytorock wrote: »
    Hi,

    Im 26 and have battled a stutter for many years.
    I attended the mcguire programme and initially it was great but found it didnt get to the route problem so relapses were very frequent.

    I dont really stutter around my girlfriend and friends, only in particular situations. I am fully aware that it stems from anxiety that i feel regarding a particular situation or a particular person or group I am speaking to.

    Im trying to get to the route cause this time and hope for assistance to basically retrain my brain through hypnosis and the sub conscious etc.

    If there is anybody who can help me, or knows anybody who works in the area of Cognitive behavioural therapy or hypnosis please let me know.

    Willing to try anything at this stage as I'm starting a business and its a constant struggle not knowing when the stutter will be fine and when it will attack!! Again all linked to my mindset and anxiety!

    Thanks for the time

    I stammered badly from childhood through adolescence and through my twenties but as I got older it lessened apparently for no reason. I still stammer on occasions such as when I need to leave a message on an answering machine or when I speak at a public gathering in an unplanned way. That is to say, asking a speaker a question. If I'm the speaker and I've written or planned what I need to say I'm fine.
    I know where you are at, it's an awful affliction and the worst when you are a kid at school and the butt of teasing but I can only say it may disappear as you grow older.
    You have learned all about breathing and stuff I'm sure and it does help and hopefully it will all but disappear for you too. I used to tell myself if I rubbed my hands together I wouldn't stammer and that made me surer of myself, some therapist once said that to me and I found it helpful.
    My parents brought me to everyone for help including a man in the Isle of Man who wanted to do some operation but at the heel of the hunt it just improved on its own.
    Hopefully it happens for you too!


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    Just Janice
    Registered Users Posts: 45 ✭Just Janice


    Paulownia wrote: »
    I stammered badly from childhood through adolescence and through my twenties but as I got older it lessened apparently for no reason. I still stammer on occasions such as when I need to leave a message on an answering machine or when I speak at a public gathering in an unplanned way. That is to say, asking a speaker a question. If I'm the speaker and I've written or planned what I need to say I'm fine.
    I know where you are at, it's an awful affliction and the worst when you are a kid at school and the butt of teasing but I can only say it may disappear as you grow older.
    You have learned all about breathing and stuff I'm sure and it does help and hopefully it will all but disappear for you too. I used to tell myself if I rubbed my hands together I wouldn't stammer and that made me surer of myself, some therapist once said that to me and I found it helpful.
    My parents brought me to everyone for help including a man in the Isle of Man who wanted to do some operation but at the heel of the hunt it just improved on its own.
    Hopefully it happens for you too!


    My brother had the same problem and like you it lessened as he got older.I guess you and he are the lucky ones. At 26 ready to rock is on the cusp of when his started to wane.I think after 30 and in a comfortable relationship he really came into his own but for years the problem it made him feel very self-conscious.He is now 35 and its such a minor thing in his life right now.Its easy to say but nobody who is close to him even notices or did notice it when it comes down to it.It was just a part of who he is.
    Best of luck with it.


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    juniorwells
    Registered Users Posts: 17 ✭juniorwells


    hi,
    Im a longtime stammerer/stutterer. 3 years ago i contacted the ISA and went to the dublin adult stammer group. meets 2-3 times a month.

    Ask them about the 'Free To stutter' course (HSE funded) organised out of Cork.

    I still stutter since doing the course, a lot less for sure, but without the fear/stress that went hand in hand with speaking in public, on the phone, in shops etc....

    Irish Stammering Association (ISA) ISA Carmichael House North Brunswick Street Dublin 7. Phone, : +353-1-873 5702.

    all the best, J.


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    arold10
    Registered Users Posts: 37 ✭arold10


    The main problem with that speech disorder there's not an easy way to overcome it. Instead of controlling and maintaining your conversation, it's that stupid speech disorder which controls your conversation by determining how you can say something, when, and how fast you can say it. As for me, I've tried a number of methods but none of them works.


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    stutterfree steve
    Registered Users Posts: 2 ✭stutterfree steve


    I have used yoga based techniques of belly breathing, meditation and vizualisation.
    Visualization for sports training purposes involves seeing and feeling the body perform a sports specific movement perfectly.
    Why not sustitute speech for sports? It requires focused attention hence the meditation which in turn requires the belly breathing.
    Breathe like a baby, Vizualise like a champion, a bit of searching should bring up more info.
    Two books I would recommend checking out with the peek inside feature on Amazon are "Yoga Sparks" and "You are not your Brain"


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    arold10
    Registered Users Posts: 37 ✭arold10


    Does it work for you?


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    stutterfree steve
    Registered Users Posts: 2 ✭stutterfree steve


    Hi there arold10 and others,
    Yes it has worked for me in that I am able to read aloud fluently, give my credit card details over the phone which was always a struggle.
    I feel the urge to stutter (possibly genetic) during animated conversation but the struggle behaviour and avoidence are no longer a problem.
    Will it work for others? I see only upside in putting it to the test. For a detailed description of my journey and academically backed techniques please visit my webpage Google; 'breathe like a baby visualize like a champion'


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    CiDeRmAn
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    Here's the link,
    Seems like a great resource from a guy who has faced that demon speech impediment and refused to allow it to control him anymore, well done!

    'breathe like a baby visualize like a champion'


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    RoonCatherine
    Registered Users Posts: 5 ✭RoonCatherine


    Free to speak free to stutter course is run by two clinical specialist speech & language therapists who specialise in stuttering. It runs in Cork/ Wexford once a year. HSE funded and well worth a try.


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