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Going through a divorce - this is awful

  • 05-03-2015 2:14am
    #1
    glassdaisies
    Registered Users Posts: 44 ✭


    Long and very painful story short, after a year of misery, I finally told my husband that our marriage is over and he needed to leave the house. Among some other fairly awful things, he had been cheating on me and had been given several chances to stop and make things better, but he barely ever seemed remourseful. Everyone tells me I made the right decision, but the after effects have been worse than I ever imagined. I never thought he'd be capable of some of the awful things that have happened since I had that conversation with him. Thankfully, we have no kids, just the house to deal with. And the fact that we now live and were married in Florida make it legally fairly easy to divorce, taking just a few weeks or so if we can be amicable, but i don't know if that is going to happen at this point.

    It has been so much more bloody awful than I ever thought it would be, not that I thought it would be just a walk in the park. This is why I stayed for so long being miserable. I'm completely gutted and heartbroken and a shell of the person I once was. I never, ever thought it would come to this with him. I'm still in shock :(


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  • #2
    Danye
    Registered Users Posts: 2,113 ✭✭✭Danye


    glassdaisies wrote: »
    Long and very painful story short, after a year of misery, I finally told my husband that our marriage is over and he needed to leave the house. Among some other fairly awful things, he had been cheating on me and had been given several chances to stop and make things better, but he barely ever seemed remourseful. Everyone tells me I made the right decision, but the after effects have been worse than I ever imagined. I never thought he'd be capable of some of the awful things that have happened since I had that conversation with him. Thankfully, we have no kids, just the house to deal with. And the fact that we now live and were married in Florida make it legally fairly easy to divorce, taking just a few weeks or so if we can be amicable, but i don't know if that is going to happen at this point.

    It has been so much more bloody awful than I ever thought it would be, not that I thought it would be just a walk in the park. This is why I stayed for so long being miserable. I'm completely gutted and heartbroken and a shell of the person I once was. I never, ever thought it would come to this with him. I'm still in shock :(

    I'm never in this forum and I'm not even married yet but I just seen your thread.

    I hope your ok as it sounds like a really tough time.

    After winter the promise of spring comes. After the dark comes light.


    Stay strong and be kind to yourself.


  • #3
    desbrook
    Registered Users Posts: 1,847 ✭✭✭desbrook


    OP can I suggest something to you? Maybe it's your husbands infidelity and dealing with it as well as grieving for a lost marriage that's truly awful.

    It's hard but try and regard your divorce as the first step to moving on and putting it all behind you. Thankfully you don't have the strong ties such as a large mortgage with negative equity or children which lengthen the healing process. This is a new beginning and you need to regard it as such. It's a great chance to make other changes in your life. I gave up smoking around the time my marraige ended.

    "It's an ill wind that blows no good "


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