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Problem with homophobic girls

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  • #62
    Cantremember
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,305 ✭✭✭Cantremember


    Tilly wrote: »
    I went out with a guy years ago who told me he sucked his mate off and enjoyed it. It was so off putting that i called it a day. And that's coming from a girl who has 3 gay mates so i'm not homophobic. Just not into the taste of cock off my blokes mouth :P

    Lol! Post of the day. Yet you expect your bloke to like it off your mouth? Lmao.


  • #63
    Buzz Killington the third
    Closed Accounts Posts: 938 ✭✭✭Buzz Killington the third


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    It's still idiotic.

    Especially in the case of not wanting to continue to see a man because he's sucked a dick, when you yourself suck dick.
    That's a silly argument. It's like calling someone a hypocrite for dumping their boyfriend because he keeps picking his nose and eating it, even though they did it themselves as a child.
    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    What about women who are into anal, but because a man did it they won't do near him?
    because she's not into gay sex, it doesn't turn her on in the slightest...
    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    I'm sorry, but this is just stupid and illogical, it's not preference and taste.
    It's 100% what it's down to.
    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    You never gave a reason as to why the gay guys I've talked to wouldn't be bothered going out with a guy who's had sex with women.
    Should we not be disgusted too?
    How am I supposed to know why it doesn't bother them?
    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    I guess we don't have any hang ups about sex. We outgrew them when we had to deal with our own "unconventional" orientations.
    Nobody said unconventional!
    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    It's gas how some people can be perfectly fine with homosexuality, yet still have this "ewwww, gay sex" mentality. It's childish no matter how you try to justify it as taste and preference.
    I know gay men who think heterosexual sex is disgusting too!


  • #64
    NewCorkLad
    Registered Users Posts: 957 ✭✭✭NewCorkLad


    Of course sexual taste and preference comes into it. Just because the idea of homosexual sex doesnt turn someone on, doesnt mean they find it icky. People can choose to not have sex with whoever they want dependent on their own tastes.


  • #65
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    KingOfFairview wrote: »
    You're being a prick. People are entitled to use any reason whatsoever to decide not to have sex with anyone, without being judged.

    One would expect a lifetime of being told its illogical for men to shag men would have taught you that.

    Nah, that's a cop out.

    At least there's consistency with me and no double standards. Unlike this post

    Tilly wrote: »
    I went out with a guy years ago who told me he sucked his mate off and enjoyed it. It was so off putting that i called it a day. And that's coming from a girl who has 3 gay mates so i'm not homophobic. Just not into the taste of cock off my blokes mouth :P
    This is nothing but childish and illogical.


  • #66
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    NewCorkLad wrote: »
    Of course sexual taste and preference comes into it. Just because the idea of homosexual sex doesnt turn someone on, doesnt mean they find it icky. People can choose to not have sex with whoever they want dependent on their own tastes.

    But the thing is, it doesn't matter if gay sex doesn't turn them on. They're not going to be having it with a bi man who has had sex with other men. You're going to be having straight sex, so using that as a negative just because gay sex doesn't turn you on is irrelevant and illogical because you're not going to be having gay sex with him.


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  • #67
    Lyaiera
    Registered Users Posts: 5,818 ✭✭✭Lyaiera


    KingOfFairview wrote: »
    People are entitled to use any reason whatsoever to decide not to have sex with anyone,

    Yes.
    without being judged.

    No.


    There could be racist, classist, xenophobic, and loads more forms of bigotry that someone doesn't want to go near someone. Do people get a free pass on their bigotry just because it's about dating?


  • #68
    bodice ripper
    Registered Users Posts: 4,681 ✭✭✭bodice ripper


    My being bisexual writes me off as a partner to a large number of lesbians in my experience.


  • #69
    NewCorkLad
    Registered Users Posts: 957 ✭✭✭NewCorkLad


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    But the thing is, it doesn't matter if gay sex doesn't turn them on. They're not going to be having it with a bi man who has had sex with other men. You're going to be having straight sex, so using that as a negative just because gay sex doesn't turn you on is irrelevant and illogical because you're not going to be having gay sex with him.

    Of course peoples past sexual history matters when choosing a sexual partner. If I found out a girl had sex with a 100 partners before I would not be interested in her. I know I would not be having sex with all those men but I would no longer be interested in her.


  • #70
    Buzz Killington the third
    Closed Accounts Posts: 938 ✭✭✭Buzz Killington the third


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    They're not going to be having it with a bi man who has had sex with other men.
    Yea they are...
    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    You're going to be having straight sex, so using that as a negative just because gay sex doesn't turn you on is irrelevant and illogical because you're not going to be having gay sex with him.
    You'll be having sex with someone who has completely different tastes than you.


  • #71
    KingOfFairview
    Registered Users Posts: 1,388 ✭✭✭KingOfFairview


    Lyaiera wrote: »
    Yes.



    No.


    There could be racist, classist, xenophobic, and loads more forms of bigotry that someone doesn't want to go near someone. Do people get a free pass on their bigotry just because it's about dating?

    By this logic we should judge gay men as misogynists.


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  • #72
    Vet Thrower
    Registered Users Posts: 271 ✭✭Vet Thrower


    Tilly wrote: »
    I went out with a guy years ago who told me he sucked his mate off and enjoyed it. It was so off putting that i called it a day. And that's coming from a girl who has 3 gay mates so i'm not homophobic. Just not into the taste of cock off my blokes mouth :P

    What about the taste of sh*t off your bloke's cock?


  • #73
    NewCorkLad
    Registered Users Posts: 957 ✭✭✭NewCorkLad


    Lyaiera wrote: »
    Yes.



    No.


    There could be racist, classist, xenophobic, and loads more forms of bigotry that someone doesn't want to go near someone. Do people get a free pass on their bigotry just because it's about dating?

    No just because you are not sexually attracted to someone, does not make you a bigot. Being sexually intimate with someone is very different to not wanting to be near someone which yes would make someone a bigot who should be judged.


  • #74
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    Buzz Killington the third wrote: »
    Yea they are...

    You'll be having sex with someone who has completely different tastes than you.

    How is it completely different tastes if they're still sexual attracted to you? He's bisexual, not gay. He'd still have equal attraction to you, same as any other straight man.


  • #75
    zetalambda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 822 ✭✭✭zetalambda


    Noobascious wrote: »
    Hi
    I'm bisexual and while I can traipse down to the George and scab a smoke and end up in some guys apartment, the same cannot be said about women.
    I'm a bit campish in my demeanour and this puts all the girls in a sour mood. I'm 28 I can get a guy I'm good looking but have yet to meet a girl. No problems getting a woman in Spain, what's the story girls?

    Butch bisexual women probably have the same problem attracting men.


  • #76
    Buzz Killington the third
    Closed Accounts Posts: 938 ✭✭✭Buzz Killington the third


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    How is it completely different tastes if they're still sexual attracted to you? He's bisexual, not gay. He'd still have equal attraction to you, same as any other straight man.

    Because she's straight, he's not. That's different sexual preferences/tastes no matter what way you look at it.


  • #77
    KingOfFairview
    Registered Users Posts: 1,388 ✭✭✭KingOfFairview


    Never seen such an incredible sense of entitlement. "If you don't want to shag me you're a bigot"

    Get over yourself


  • #78
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    Buzz Killington the third wrote: »
    Because she's straight, he's not. That's different sexual preferences/tastes no matter what way you look at it.

    But it's irrelevant if you're both into each other.

    Jesus. Maybe we should just segregate bisexual people off with other bisexual people and be done with it :rolleyes:

    If you're both coming together for sex, and you're both attracted to each other, you're both on equal footing.


  • #79
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    KingOfFairview wrote: »
    Never seen such an incredible sense of entitlement. "If you don't want to shag me you're a bigot"

    Get over yourself

    Never said you were or would be. I'd just think you had an illogical outlook on sex.


  • #80
    RWCNT
    Registered Users Posts: 1,430 ✭✭✭RWCNT


    I love how people are trying to act as if being repulsed by someone's bisexuality is something intangible like not fancying someone with a certain dress sense as opposed to the deep instilled internalised prejudice stemming from being brought up in a heterocentric society that everyone's too PC to admit to nowadays.


  • #81
    KingOfFairview
    Registered Users Posts: 1,388 ✭✭✭KingOfFairview


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    Never said you were or would be. I'd just think you had an illogical outlook on sex.

    What has logic got to do with sexual attraction? Its involuntary


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  • #82
    NewCorkLad
    Registered Users Posts: 957 ✭✭✭NewCorkLad


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    But it's irrelevant if you're both into each other.

    Jesus. Maybe we should just segregate bisexual people off with other bisexual people and be done with it :rolleyes:

    If you're both coming together for sex, and you're both attracted to each other, you're both on equal footing.

    But in this instance she is not attracted to him, due to his sexual past, which is a valid reason to not be attracted to someone.


  • #83
    NewCorkLad
    Registered Users Posts: 957 ✭✭✭NewCorkLad


    RWCNT wrote: »
    I love how people are trying to act as if being repulsed by someone's bisexuality is something intangible like not fancying someone with a certain dress sense as opposed to the deep instilled internalised prejudice stemming from being brought up in a heterocentric society that everyone's too PC to admit to nowadays.

    Thats BS there is a big difference in not being sexually attracted to someone, to being repulsed by someone.


  • #84
    Arbiter of Good Taste
    Registered Users Posts: 2,200 ✭✭✭Arbiter of Good Taste


    If someone is going around with such a big chip on their shoulder, it's likely that their a$$hole-ishness is going to be the first turn off


  • #85
    Tilly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,987 ✭✭✭Tilly


    _Redzer_ wrote: »
    Nah, that's a cop out.

    At least there's consistency with me and no double standards. Unlike this post



    This is nothing but childish and illogical.
    Says you! I can end a relationship for whatever reason i like and if it upsets you, princess, then tough! I'm not going to lose sleep over it.


  • #86
    KingOfFairview
    Registered Users Posts: 1,388 ✭✭✭KingOfFairview


    RWCNT wrote: »
    I love how people are trying to act as if being repulsed by someone's bisexuality is something intangible like not fancying someone with a certain dress sense as opposed to the deep instilled internalised prejudice stemming from being brought up in a heterocentric society that everyone's too PC to admit to nowadays.

    Would it be ok to not want to shag someone who regularly used prostitues legally, abroad?


  • #87
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    Tilly wrote: »
    Says you! I can end a relationship for whatever reason i like and if it upsets you, princess, then tough! I'm not going to lose sleep over it.

    Doesn't offend me considering I'd never be attracted to you, but I hope he found a more open minded woman, one without a childish attitude.


  • #88
    Vet Thrower
    Registered Users Posts: 271 ✭✭Vet Thrower


    Lyaiera wrote: »
    There could be racist, classist, xenophobic, and loads more forms of bigotry that someone doesn't want to go near someone. Do people get a free pass on their bigotry just because it's about dating?

    Don't forget ageist, statusist, looksist, intelligenceist, and personalityist forms of bigotry as well. People have been getting away with this crap for long enough. It's no longer appropriate in this day and age.


  • #89
    iDave
    Registered Users Posts: 3,750 ✭✭✭iDave


    Lets all shag


  • #90
    daithi84
    Registered Users Posts: 197 ✭✭daithi84


    As a gay man i would feel very insecure about dating a bisexual man. Mainly as if he cheated on me with a woman how the hell am i going to compete with that. Also due to the fact of the most heart break i have experienced has been due to closeted bi men. So it would take a lot of persuading me to trust a bi man again. Sometimes its just not worth the effort. By the sounds of the OP is trolling but if not no woman is homophobic or biphobic if she doesnt want to sleep with you. Everyone has free choice.


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  • #91
    Vet Thrower
    Registered Users Posts: 271 ✭✭Vet Thrower


    Bi now, gay later.


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