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Friends With Benefits

  • 24-11-2014 1:59am
    #1
    mountsky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 164 ✭✭


    My best friend is in a f#£'k buddy situation for a while now,but he's fallen for the girl,she doesn't know BUT he doesn't want a serious relationship&thats fair enough, not sure she does either, problem is he never wanted to fall for her&now his stomachs in knots wondering what he should do,any advice fellow posters? Please & cheers


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  • #2
    Ruu
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,622 ✭✭✭Ruu


    Moved from After Hours. Please read the current forum charter below.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057235143


  • #3
    Detached Retina
    Registered Users Posts: 140 ✭✭Detached Retina


    So looks like as he is now more into her, but doesn't want a relationship - what he's maybe looking/hoping for is her not to engage in any shennanigans with other lads - while allowing him to do his own thing? If so, been there when I was younger,at the time felt like giving him a clip around the ear! And that was the end of that friends with benefits scenario.
    Sorry, move to PI crossed my post. Hope he can have a think about he want's, run it by her and if they don't see eye to eye move on in good spirit.


  • #4
    mountsky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 164 ✭✭mountsky


    Ruu wrote: »
    Moved from After Hours. Please read the current forum charter below.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057235143

    Tryed to put it in 'the Gentlemen's Lounge' but couldn't do it from phone,sorry


  • #5
    mountsky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 164 ✭✭mountsky


    Detached Retina wrote: »
    So looks like as he is now more into her, but doesn't want a relationship - what he's maybe looking/hoping for is her not to engage in any shennanigans with other lads - while allowing him to do his own thing? If so, been there when I was younger,at the time felt like giving him a clip around the ear! And that was the end of that friends with benefits scenario.
    Sorry, move to PI crossed my post. Hope he can have a think about he want's, run it by her and if they don't see eye to eye move on in good spirit.

    I advised him to quit while he's ahead,because someone will end up hurt


  • #6
    Dellnum
    Registered Users Posts: 262 ✭✭Dellnum


    If he doesn't want a relationship with her then he can't have fallen for her that much !!!


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  • #7
    pookie82
    Registered Users Posts: 2,217 ✭✭✭pookie82


    Dellnum wrote: »
    If he doesn't want a relationship with her then he can't have fallen for her that much !!!

    Truth. This happens all the time and when it does, the person DOES want a relationship, against all the odds.

    Otherwise it's more about possession than falling for someone. If you really and truly "fall for" someone you'll move mountains and change your outlook to be with them.


  • #8
    missjm
    Registered Users Posts: 268 ✭✭missjm


    Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. Probably hoping to block her from seeing other guys so he can maintain his cosy arrangement. He's either 'fallen' for her or not. If he has he'd want something more.


  • #9
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Where do you fit in op?


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