Right guys, I have a slight dilemna, trying to use common sense on it, but want some feedback on it to confirm my gut instincts...
I am bi, irish, in aberdeen studying at the moment, and one of my friends is gay.
Now, I am currently having issues with him I am struggling to work through with him, that I am struggling to decide on how I handle, I know the options, but just being indecisive you could say - story of my life maybe...
Right first things first I suppose. This friend has only come to mine twice, because in his words, he "doesnt like where I stay", has stood me up 5 or 6 times in last few months, saying he will come to the local bar and not coming etc.
He is also on at me to come to his, or meet at uni, or go for a meal in town or whatever, and doesnt seem to get how things annoy me.
The other big issue involves an encounter I saw on a night out. There are two LGBT venues in Aberdeen at the moment, Chaplins and Cheerz.
I was in Chaplins, and I saw my friend come in and go upstairs, I had thought he was with his boyfriend in cheerz, so I followed up to say hi, to see him on a couch with someone I didnt know on top of him, well partways on top of him shall we say... I discretely went off and tried to nab him later.
I tried asking him what the hell afterwards, and he was really defensive, and said him and his boyfriend have an "arrangement" about "kissing" other guys.
I dont quite believe him due to fact that they didnt seem to have been kissing, they were doing it in a club where his boyfriend was in the other one, and the fact he was so aggressively defensive.
Needless to say, I havent said what happened to anyone, I have tried saying to him I want to talk to him about some issues, but he seems to be avoiding me...
Just some opinions about what you think about the situation, so I can see how objective or not I am being