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First time woes

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  • 29-09-2010 7:42pm
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    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I need a bloke's perspective on this. Me and this guy were going to do 'it' for the first time. We're not exactly in a relationship but we agreed to have a casual fling. (I suppose you could say 'f*** buddies').
    Anyways first thing was he wouldn't let me see his stuff. Turned me around and everything. After a while he's still messing around with me and I cop that he can't get it up. Poor guy. He eventually just gave up and I tried to just relax him. After a while he started trying again. No luck.
    I feel really bad for him and don't want him to think there's anything wrong with him. But I want to know what I can do to help. Do any of you guys have suggestions as to what might be bothering him/how I can help him?


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    Otis Driftwood
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    Serious replies only folks.Was it his first time OP?It could be any number of factors with anxiety or tiredness being the most common reasons.


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    LegacyUser
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    Sorry, my mistake. I meant it was our first time 'together'. Neither of us are virgins.


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    Novella
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    Do you both really want your first times to be a 'casual fling'? Maybe he couldn't get it up 'cause he just wasn't comfortable with that idea, and that's understandable really. S'pose all you can do about it really is have a chat, put each other more at ease about the situation.


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    MidlandsM
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    Hard to know what to do Becky.....

    Did you try to stimulate him in any fashion?


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    LegacyUser
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    MidlandsM wrote: »
    Hard to know what to do Becky.....

    Did you try to stimulate him in any fashion?

    Yeah I did. In fact that's how I got him to try the second time.


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    D'Agger
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    More thank likely anxiety and nervousness, he probably feels a bit of pressure to perform and it got to him I'd say


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    Mrmoe
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    Why don't you try it in the morning time? He could be tired after a long day and this could contribute to it. Testosterone levels are generally higher in the morning, he will be more refreshed after a good nights sleep and he will make up with morning wood as well so it is a perfect time. You don't have to do it all the time either, just for a short while until an anxiety he has is gone.

    Get him to go down on you for a while as well. There will be less pressure on him to get it up straight away. If he does a good job he will be rearing to go.


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