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Sleepover question

  • 10-01-2015 8:03pm
    #1
    m'lady
    Registered Users Posts: 1,859 ✭✭✭


    I'm just looking for other peoples opinions on this...
    My daughter is 14 and has had a boyfriend for the past 4 months, he lives about 20 minutes away so comes in here to see her as long as I'm at home ( so no free house). She visits him also if his mother is there, and we make sure to stay in contact so no wool is pulled over our eyes!

    She visited him today and there a few minutes ago I got a text from her saying that the boyfriend had asked her to a match in the morning and could she stay over, that the mother is there and there won't be 'any messing' as he will be in bed early. Now my instant reaction is simply 'no', that she is too young etc. My friend thinks I'm wrong and if the mother is there etc what is the problem.
    Any thoughts??


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  • #2
    echo beach
    Registered Users Posts: 1,252 ✭✭✭echo beach


    How well do you know his mother? Can you pick up the phone and talk to her? That is what I would like to do.


  • #3
    m'lady
    Registered Users Posts: 1,859 ✭✭✭m'lady


    echo beach wrote: »
    How well do you know his mother? Can you pick up the phone and talk to her? That is what I would like to do.


    I'd know her only through the boy himself, could pick up the phone no problem and talk/ask questions but I just don't know whether I want to start this at all, as I know it could then become a regular thing if you get me?


  • #4
    Lisha
    Registered Users Posts: 8,693 ✭✭✭Lisha


    I really think 14 is young to be staying at a boyfriends house.
    Just my opinion
    Go with your gut op, and don't feel pressured into agreeing.
    I would talk to other mother and say what yiu feel. Once you let Her stay the first time it becomes routine


  • #5
    m'lady
    Registered Users Posts: 1,859 ✭✭✭m'lady


    Lisha wrote: »
    I really think 14 is young to be staying at a boyfriends house.
    Just my opinion
    Go with your gut op, and don't feel pressured into agreeing.
    I would talk to other mother and say what yiu feel. Once you let Her stay the first time it becomes routine
    .


    I agree, I think it's nearly asking for trouble or somewhat encouraging the whole relationship further than necessary. I've said no and that I would bring her in tomorrow morning if she wants to go to the match..


  • #6
    Lisha
    Registered Users Posts: 8,693 ✭✭✭Lisha


    I think now m'lady that teenage relationships are treated as adult type relationships far too quickly and readily by people. At that age I would prefer a dating type relationship not a forever couple type relationships .


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  • #7
    m'lady
    Registered Users Posts: 1,859 ✭✭✭m'lady


    Lisha wrote: »
    I think now m'lady that teenage relationships are treated as adult type relationships far too quickly and readily by people. At that age I would prefer a dating type relationship not a forever couple type relationships .


    Totally agree with you. It's all 'love you' and 'forever', there doesn't seem to be any sense of fun in it anymore, just serious movie type stuff!!


  • #8
    _Jumper_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 150 ✭✭_Jumper_


    No.


  • #9
    seventeen sheep
    Closed Accounts Posts: 776 ✭✭✭seventeen sheep


    A no followed by a hell no.

    You do realise they're counting on sneaking into the same room when the parents are asleep? Of course, not for sex. But ... If it happens ...

    They are fourteen. Your child should be at home with you. You should be the responsible parent here.


  • #10
    whupdedo
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,513 ✭✭✭whupdedo


    I'm not a parent so maybe my opinion will be disregarded

    But

    She's 14, get your behind into your car and collect her, your not meant to be her friend so put the foot down before this becomes something you can't stop, if it happens once it will set a precedence for other similar overnight stays


  • #11
    wdmfapq4zs83hv
    Closed Accounts Posts: 563 ✭✭✭wdmfapq4zs83hv


    Hell no! At 14 she should not be staying anywhere least of all with a boyfriend! Big fat no!


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  • #12
    punisher5112
    Registered Users Posts: 24,647 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    Guys are only thinking 1 thing.

    Take that as a no, this is from a guy;)

    If it's girl's then no prob but that is a bad idea.


  • #13
    m'lady
    Registered Users Posts: 1,859 ✭✭✭m'lady


    Thanks for all the replies, like I've said I had made my decision and it was a no, I agree with everyone that's replied so far,I just wanted to ask people their opinions.


  • #14
    tinkerbell
    Registered Users Posts: 6,423 ✭✭✭tinkerbell


    Good God NO!!! 14 and staying over at a boyfriend's house? Hell no.


  • #15
    Into The Blue
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭Into The Blue


    If she wants to go to the match that badly, she can get up 20mins earlier in the morning!

    I'd say they were well proud of themselves thinking of that one as an excuse to stay :)


  • #16
    Into The Blue
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭Into The Blue


    Into The Blue wrote: »
    If she wants to go to the match that badly, she can get up 20mins earlier in the morning!

    I'd say they were well proud of themselves thinking of that one as an excuse to stay :)

    Apologies, Just realized this happened two days ago..


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