[How Strange]

Sorry I forgot about your section; of course you can't feed lying down.

Wind at this stage in a bf baby usually indicates an oversupply and/or fast letdown. Poor O used to get sprayed by a jet of milk at the start of a feed. Stick with the infacol if it works for you.

A has slept on me since she was born. If I put her in the crib she'd flap her arms and look as if she was falling and scream her head off. I think the path of least resistance at this stage is just to go with cosleeping if that's what they want. I put the duvet up to my chest, A on top of it and then I've got a blanket which covers both of us. I prop up the arm hold her head up with a pillow so I'm not pulling out of my shoulder. Last night was the first night she slept in the crib for part of the night and it was great to be able to sleep on my side for a while. All the sleeping on my back is aggravating my sciatica.

I did a combination of crib/cot and co sleeping with O and I'll do the same this time.

[Nead21]

E wouldnt at all in moses basket for the first 2wks or so. He would only sleep on my chest or beside me. I was really worried also but i read up on it. On La Leche's website they have a list of 7 criteria that makes it safe.

I kept the duvet off him and covered him with a cellular. When he slept beside me i curled my body around him which gave him space but protected him if that makes any sense.

At 5wks old he slept like that last night and most of the time he sleeps there after the night feed.

[dublinlady]

It's good to hear that as I mentioned it to a friend and she told me I was hugely increasing the risk of cot death she is just unsettled and unhappy anywhere else! Some nights she does a few hrs in the Moses basket but when she's very windy the only place she'll settle is on my arm! I'm so tired I just want sleep!!! Ill take it anyway it comes!

The fast let down is interesting - ill try express a little at the start of feeds and see, anything that helps!

[How Strange]

I'm not big into cosleeping as a long term family sleeping solution (a lot of parents are and if it works for them then genuinely fair play to them!). However cosleeping does not increase the risk of SIDS if you take reasonable safety precautions such as no alcohol or medication and no smoking even 2nd hand smoke.

In fact the safest place for a newborn is within a very close proximity mother as its heartbeat and breathing pattern will regulate to match its mothers.

Follow your instincts and if you think she wants/needs to sleep on your chest then go with it. It's probably one of the most often asked questions here by parents of newborns; my new baby won't go into the cot and will only sleep on its mother, what do we do. I think these babies are trying to tell us something.

I remember being at my wits end with O because he would only sleep on me and everyone was saying how dangerous it was, how I'd regret it, how I'd never get him into a cot etc etc etc. I soon figured out to stop telling people and just do our own thing.