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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389
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Right, what do all y'all make of this?
Joined POF on Wednesday. One of the first guys to message me seemed really nice. We were on chat for ages that night.
Didn't talk on Thursday, I missed a chat request from him.
I was out on Friday night, came in at about 2am, blotto, and logged on. He invited me to chat immediately and we were on again for ages. Nothing sleazy, just friendly, with a mildly flirtatious undertone.
Arsed around the house Saturday day, was thinking about our conversation a bit and went "Oh God, did I ask him out last night?" Logged on, he was online, invited him to chat and asked him out straight had I asked him out. He was like "Yep
. No backing out now!" We were chatting for about an hour and next thing he went offline literally mid-conversation. I was like "Christ, bet you he's married and his wife walked into the room or something."
Anyway, I really couldn't be bothered playing games so I just sent him a message yesterday morning saying that I wouldn't be online all day, here's my number, I asked you out, I'll leave the rest up to you. Needless to say, he didn't text me, but when I logged in this morning, I had a missed chat request from him from last night. WTF?
I have the app and apparently if you leave yourself logged in on your phone, it shows you as being online. So now I'm like, great, he probably thinks I was blanking him now. But then on the other hand I'm just going he has my number, if he wanted to talk to me that badly, he could have just texted me.
Bloody mixed messages! :mad:0 -
Busy Lizzie wrote: »Thanks for the tip! Do you mean, dont list off stuff like hobbies etc? I sent a few there and I just mentioned a couple of things from there profiles. It's a bit weird emailing strangers! But hopefully one of them wont be a stranger for much longer!
Thats a good approach Lizzie. When you're looking at a lads profile. Don't just go for the "Hi, your hot :P how are you?" approach. Personally that drives me mad, I'll always reply to someone who shows they actually made an effort and read your profile.
Eg. "I see you're interested in Paintball/ Origami/ Rugby, hows that going for you?".
A stupid joke or something that gives the person a chance to engage with you.0 -
Firstly, relax! He might not want to give you his number just yet! Give it a few daysRight, what do all y'all make of this?
Joined POF on Wednesday. One of the first guys to message me seemed really nice. We were on chat for ages that night.
Didn't talk on Thursday, I missed a chat request from him.
I was out on Friday night, came in at about 2am, blotto, and logged on. He invited me to chat immediately and we were on again for ages. Nothing sleazy, just friendly, with a mildly flirtatious undertone.
Arsed around the house Saturday day, was thinking about our conversation a bit and went "Oh God, did I ask him out last night?" Logged on, he was online, invited him to chat and asked him out straight had I asked him out. He was like "Yep. No backing out now!" We were chatting for about an hour and next thing he went offline literally mid-conversation. I was like "Christ, bet you he's married and his wife walked into the room or something."
Anyway, I really couldn't be bothered playing games so I just sent him a message yesterday morning saying that I wouldn't be online all day, here's my number, I asked you out, I'll leave the rest up to you. Needless to say, he didn't text me, but when I logged in this morning, I had a missed chat request from him from last night. WTF?
I have the app and apparently if you leave yourself logged in on your phone, it shows you as being online. So now I'm like, great, he probably thinks I was blanking him now. But then on the other hand I'm just going he has my number, if he wanted to talk to me that badly, he could have just texted me.
Bloody mixed messages! :mad: 0 -
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BigDuffman wrote: »Thats a good approach Lizzie. When you're looking at a lads profile. Don't just go for the "Hi, your hot :P how are you?" approach. Personally that drives me mad, I'll always reply to someone who shows they actually made an effort and read your profile.
Eg. "I see you're interested in Paintball/ Origami/ Rugby, hows that going for you?".
A stupid joke or something that gives the person a chance to engage with you.
Even if they say something in relation to my profile if they use incorrect spelling or grammar I won't reply
I also can't read profiles with text speak! Use full words! 0 -
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BigDuffman wrote: »Thats a good approach Lizzie. When you're looking at a lads profile. Don't just go for the "Hi, your hot :P how are you?" approach. Personally that drives me mad, I'll always reply to someone who shows they actually made an effort and read your profile.
Eg. "I see you're interested in Paintball/ Origami/ Rugby, hows that going for you?".
A stupid joke or something that gives the person a chance to engage with you.
Thanks for the tips! If you're getting "you're hot" messages I might have to try and find you myself!
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The Great Chinholio wrote: »Or he doesnt want to come across as looking to get really serious really fast incase it scares people off. Reading too much into things is the devil O_O
Oh yes...totally...this was the other way of looking at it. I should have pointed that out too! I know I'm over analysing...Ive just started so I suppose Im all enthusiastic! 0 -
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Jeasus, no messages in a while. Meh. Are there women here who'd give pointers on what I'm doing wrong on my profile?
If its POF, send it my way. I'll have a look for ya.SOconfusing wrote: »Because whatever physically attractive qualities I may or may not have are instantly blown away if I am shorter than her.
I'm 5 7' - 5 8'ish
Women look at height the same way guys look at weight. I pretty much knew going into this that I wouldn't get anywhere with such physical statistics up on show. But I would not be comfortable with lying either.
The girl in question has not replied in 6 days anyway so I imagine it was just to keep her replies in the green as someone else said earlier. Not seeing anyone else on OKC in my area anymore that I like/think I might have a chance with.
I've never even gotten a date. These things really have a way of making a person feel quite worthless.
Don't mind the height thing. Lots of small girls out there.
The bit I bolded: Get out of that mind set or online dating will never work for you. There could be a number of reasons why the girl didn't reply. Onwards and upwards. (It's happened to many of us in here btw!)Right, what do all y'all make of this?
Joined POF on Wednesday. One of the first guys to message me seemed really nice. We were on chat for ages that night.
Didn't talk on Thursday, I missed a chat request from him.
I was out on Friday night, came in at about 2am, blotto, and logged on. He invited me to chat immediately and we were on again for ages. Nothing sleazy, just friendly, with a mildly flirtatious undertone.
Arsed around the house Saturday day, was thinking about our conversation a bit and went "Oh God, did I ask him out last night?" Logged on, he was online, invited him to chat and asked him out straight had I asked him out. He was like "Yep. No backing out now!" We were chatting for about an hour and next thing he went offline literally mid-conversation. I was like "Christ, bet you he's married and his wife walked into the room or something."
Anyway, I really couldn't be bothered playing games so I just sent him a message yesterday morning saying that I wouldn't be online all day, here's my number, I asked you out, I'll leave the rest up to you. Needless to say, he didn't text me, but when I logged in this morning, I had a missed chat request from him from last night. WTF?
I have the app and apparently if you leave yourself logged in on your phone, it shows you as being online. So now I'm like, great, he probably thinks I was blanking him now. But then on the other hand I'm just going he has my number, if he wanted to talk to me that badly, he could have just texted me.
Bloody mixed messages! :mad:
I don't want this to sound pratronising but relax!! Just see how it goes.I used to think this, however my last girlfriend was more than an inch taller than me (significantly more when in heels). Oftentimes women who are tall have learned to 'deal with it' and aren't too fussy about a guy's height as they know they are severely limiting their options when excluding from consideration any men who aren't as tall as they.
If the right dude comes along, a small difference in height isn't going to matter. But it does feel weird kissing someone shorter than you.Busy Lizzie wrote: »For the male POF users - quick question!
If a fella has chosen "wants to date, but nothing serious"...is there any point in contacting them if I have set "looking for a relationship"?
Just trying to figure out the meaning behind "dating, but nothing serious"....that could be guy-code for wants a quickie!
In my experience, they are just after a shag.Insect Overlord wrote: »What's the deal with chatting up people who live miles away? Worth it just in case, or too much hassle?
Depends what type of a relationship you want. If you don't mind long distance, go for it!0 -
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I'd given up on this a while ago, found RL to be more successful (not difficult tbh). This is stolen from someone else's post. Very interesting reading.
Basically confirms what I'd thought about internet dating- the top 20% of guys get all the action and as a result can pick choose their girls, and subsequently mess a lot of them around. Very depressing (and surprisng) to see how shallow some (most) of the OKC girls are. Not to mention people of PoF.
On a sidenote, I must be really ugly if the "least attractive" guys are getting a 20% response rate. I got 10% and sent about 80 messages over 2 months. 3 dates, one girl I was seeing for about 6 weeks but it wasn't going anywhere. Each message was about 10-20 minutes, so I was putting in ~3hours per reply and ~6 hours of message writing per date.
Wish you all the best of luck, glad I did it but the return on my time is not worth it!
Please note this is not "attack" on girls using OD, more just my observations and how I felt after my experience.0
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