Blow jobs - womans perspective

aare · 04-03-2009 2:32am

Personally, take away all my issues, take away all my inhibitions, and exclude all aspects of morality and hygeine...and you can turn up "in love" as high as you like, while you are in the switchbox...

...and I still just find a BJ uncomfortable and boring...

Maybe being able to say that out loud is just one of those "maturity, and then some" things?

panda100 wrote: »

Reminds me of a great Samantha quote from Sex and the city :"You men have no idea what we're dealing with down there. Teeth placement, and jaw stress, and suction, and gag reflex, and all the while bobbing up and down, moaning and trying to breathe through our noses. Easy? Honey, they don't call it a job for nothin."

Don't get me started on the "jaw stress"...

...in fairness, however much I appreciate the generousity of the intent, I am not exactly overwhelmed by any reciprocation either...I find the feeling sort of creepy...

Mr Quiet · 04-03-2009 11:41pm

Boston wrote: »

Your wrong.

Ironing.

We all have our own take on things. Even blow jobs.

Be yourself op.

Karatekrazy · 05-03-2009 1:44am

i love getting blojobs. and i never have had 2 ask a girl 2 give me 1. so i assume if i dont have 2 ask them 2 do it, they enjoy it!!

Zaph · 05-03-2009 2:07am

Karatekrazy, if you wouldn't mind dropping the text speak in any future posts in this forum it would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

fugazied · 05-03-2009 2:09am

To the OP, looks like you have sexual hangups. Do you also hate the way your private parts look or smell? Are those parts the 'dirty private' things on our bodies?

LegacyUser · 05-03-2009 3:07am

Dudess wrote: »

Of course it's an excuse - makes perfect sense. I doubt most inexperienced teenage girls' dream fantasy is sucking what is, as you said, an excretory organ.

Can you please stop calling it an excretory organ; it isn't. Its a sex organ with an excretory function. Its like saying a vagina is an excretory organ, which clearly it is not. Calling it such reflects your wider views on fellatio.

OP as anyone has more sexual experiences I think they find that "sex" encompasses far more then mere intercourse. As a man even I didn't enjoy recieving oral sex at first, whereas now I love both receiving and giving; it just takes time.

Dudess · 05-03-2009 2:18pm

fugazied wrote: »

To the OP, looks like you have sexual hangups.

Why?

Unregisteredddd wrote: »

Can you please stop calling it an excretory organ; it isn't. Its a sex organ with an excretory function.

Yes I know, but to an inexperienced girl, it is an excretory organ - as in, "that's where he pees from!"
All I'm saying is, people (men) who are shocked and horrified that it isn't an appealing idea for a girl who's new to sex would want to perhaps consider things from her point of view.

givyjoe81 · 05-03-2009 8:05pm

Dudess wrote: »

Oh yeah, "deffo" - those clitorises can choke ya...

Dont take this the wrong way dudess, but when was the last time you went down on a girl?! (Im assuming you are hetero girl that is). It can be just as unpleasant for the many of the same reasons without the gag reflex of course!

Dudess · 05-03-2009 8:21pm

I never argued it couldn't be. That was in response to someone saying hetero guys have it easier than hetero girls. Forgetting about hygiene, if both organs are clean, then the gal's got the tougher job.

zuroph · 05-03-2009 8:28pm

i dunno bout that, my tongue gets pretty tired, and the muscles ache after about 45 minutes.

Terodil · 05-03-2009 9:17pm

Dudess wrote: »

I never argued it couldn't be. That was in response to someone saying hetero guys have it easier than hetero girls. Forgetting about hygiene, if both organs are clean, then the gal's got the tougher job.

I'm not sure. I think getting a girl to the point of coming takes a lot more effort and expertise than to get a man to the point of coming, if that's an appropriate measurement for 'difficulty'. Then again I have never (and will never) go(ne) down on a man, that part is only personal experience ^^

Or maybe getting the other to come always appears more complicated than when it comes to oneself

LegacyUser · 06-03-2009 9:36pm

Blowjobs eh. Would LOVE if I were getting them, but not willing to force the issue. Can be stressful though when a couple not on the same page sexually, whatever the preference is.

barleybooley · 07-03-2009 2:09am

TBH I effing love giving them, they're super hot! AND my bf loves getting them so it's win-win. But, it probably only works if both parties enjoy them

banquo · 07-03-2009 2:14am

barleybooley wrote: »

AND my bf loves getting them

I can personally vouch for this.

It's relevant!

LegacyUser · 07-03-2009 8:59pm

Try by only giving it to the guy you love that should make it easier and nicer for you cause he is enjoying you will enjoy.

Affable · 07-03-2009 10:33pm

I don't bother asking for them because women I've been with do them so robotically you can tell they don't like it, their soul isn't in it .I on the other hand love giving oral to someone I fancy.

ManOfMystery · 07-03-2009 10:50pm

I've probably had oral from just about every woman I've ever gone out with or slept with, be it a casual or long term relationship. However my current gf isn't a huge fan of it, although she has done it a few times, and unfortunately for me (joke!!) she's the one I want to be with for keeps

lol. I don't really care though - in the grand scheme of things, whether she's into giving oral or not isn't really important when she's the perfect person for me in so many other ways.

Affable · 07-03-2009 10:51pm

ManOfMystery wrote: »

I've probably had oral from just about every woman I've ever gone out with or slept with, be it a casual or long term relationship. However my current gf isn't a huge fan of it, although she has done it a few times, and unfortunately for me (joke!!) she's the one I want to be with for keeps lol. I don't really care though - in the grand scheme of things, whether she's into giving oral or not isn't really important when she's the perfect person for me in so many other ways.

Very magnanimous of you.:rolleyes:

Silverfish · 07-03-2009 10:54pm

Affable wrote: »

Very magnanimous of you.:rolleyes:

Off-topic and unhelpful posting can earn you a ban from this forum.

ManOfMystery · 07-03-2009 10:59pm

Affable wrote: »

Very magnanimous of you.:rolleyes:

I'm glad it's appreciated :rolleyes:

I'm merely making a point. Some men can get hung up on the oral thing and start to get peeved off because their partner won't do it. I love it as much as any other guy, but things have to be kept in perspective - if you have a loyal partner who loves you, is affectionate, will always be there for you, etc - then whether you get oral or not should not be the be all and end all.

LegacyUser · 08-03-2009 2:37pm

As a man, I absolutely enjoy giving oral to women and I do it for longer than I get it myself. It's something that excites me and makes up for a great warm up. I like the taste of it and sometimes even the smell (as long as hygiene concerns are in place) I like the fact that she's enjoying it. Unfortunately, the only partner I had up to now, is just dumping me... so I guess I will have that feeling in my head for sometime, as I don't believe there's a chance to come back and on the other hand, I don't believe I will find someone in the coming time (I'm not even going to try it out, to be honest). As for receiving, my ex-partner was not a big fan of giving... which sucks, because since I started imagining what it would be like and watching porn that it always been the thing I liked the most and which unfortunately I got the less. I understand that not everyone is actually into it. I consider myself a very hygienic guy, but almost everyday's when I get home, it just doesn't smell that good at all, maybe it's the way how I "wiggle" the lad, but... I really would like to find the cause, because before I started having sexual activity, I never noticed it. Maybe because my hygiene concerns were less than they are now?

Zippie84 · 08-03-2009 6:52pm

haven't read all the responses.

up until a yr ago, i (being 100% honest) was actually very disgusted by the thought of giving a man a bj.

i was going out with someone knew and fancied giving it a try..

i went to ann summers and bought some dick lick, and a book called something like' how to give a mind-blowing blow job'.

i read the book beforehand and it very much got me used to the idea, and some tips and techniques, even though when it came down to it it was just a matter of what i was comfortable with at the time.

the guy knew it was my first time giving a bj, and knew he could prob expect one this particular evening, but that i wasn't to be rushed, and to not mention it that evening, until i initiated it, and to let me go at my own pace.

when i felt comfortable enought with it, i did it and i actually really really enjoyed it. the dick lick made it taste good, and i really enjoyed giving him pleasure, and felt so in control. i really loved the fact that i was doing something that he enjoyed so much. i only ended up doing it a few more times cos i split with him a while afterwards, but for something i never thought i would enjoy, and always slightly repulsed and disgusted me, i was genuinely surprised by how much i enjoyed it.

would definitely recommend using dick lick the first time though to make it that bit more enjoyable (and tasty)

edevelera60 · 08-03-2009 7:23pm

I love going down on my girlfriend, cannot get enough of it.

Teddi · 08-03-2009 7:59pm

Keep it clean to keep them keen....

not being smart but it helps

Affable · 08-03-2009 9:56pm

I think a lot of men think they're not real meh if they say it, but personally I've never enjoyed them. Maybe I've just never had someone that was into it though.

Zippie84 · 08-03-2009 10:17pm

Affable wrote: »

I think a lot of men think they're not real meh if they say it, but personally I've never enjoyed them. Maybe I've just never had someone that was into it though.

i'm a woman who couldn't really be bothered with receiving, so its good to hear a man who feels the same!

Affable · 08-03-2009 10:29pm

Zippie84 wrote: »

i'm a woman who couldn't really be bothered with receiving, so its good to hear a man who feels the same!

Hehe. Could be the basis for a relationsip that. :P

Zippie84 · 08-03-2009 10:58pm

Affable wrote: »

Hehe. Could be the basis for a relationsip that. :P

hehe... i might not wanna receive, but i'd probably wanna give though

lol

ray mears · 08-03-2009 11:17pm

i cannot believe the attitude of the women on this matter.blow jobs are a natural form of sexual gratification for both parties - the man can close his eyes, lean back and imagine, and the bird gets to satisfy a man.what is there not to get?ive done my fair share of jungle operations and by and large i enjoy them, despite the enviroment that, we, men, have top deal with.
if i have one piece of advice for women, grow some balls and suck it up.whatever u do, dont spit or brush ur teeth afterwards...thats very ignorant.

Affable · 08-03-2009 11:20pm

Zippie84 wrote: »

hehe... i might not wanna receive, but i'd probably wanna give though lol

:eek:Why can't British women be like this?!

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