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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.
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Hi phi3,
Firstly go to GP or counsellor and talk about this!
Second, if you don't go you will make it worse!. Agrophobia is a big thing and something my shrink made sure didn't happen to me. I'm lucky that my stubborness literally forces me along with a sense of competition against GAD not to lose. If you keep making reasons not to, it will get more difficult every time!
Third and finally!! You want to go and you are looking forward to it, so just bloody well go!
That might sound harsh, but for me a big kick in the a**e is needed sometimes. Remember, anxiety CAN'T hurt you. You WILL not die. You WILL feel uncomfortable before, during and after but you will feel worse if you don't!
The more you do this type of thing the easier it gets!:cool:
I'm certainly not looking forward to it! I'm dreading it. And I wouldn't say I want to go, it's just something I'm mildly curious about. The person who asked me to go probably isn't helping. I haven't seen him for years, and we didn't part on great terms. We have been in contact since but not in person.0 -
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Keep that strength going, keep it going keep it going, it will pay off! I'm sorry to hear about that, strange circumstances. Try and go out, it is not a reflection on you that he left. Try and make yourself comfortable in your body in whatever way you can.
Lots of love
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Hey Mick, glad to hear you are getting some relief from the anxiety, you're sounding much more positive.
Are you into mindfulness meditation at all? It's something I find really good for the early morning dread and over thinking mind. I try to do it before I get up in the morning and it can make such a difference to the rest of the day, particularly if you do it regularly. If I have time I would ideally do a 20-30 minute guided meditation, but if I'm on the run (weekdays) I just stick on some short but beautiful music close my eyes and focus on every note.
Just for you here's three minutes of peace for your head ..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-4wUfZD6oc
I've never really tried meditation, but I might look into it now that I'm starting to get my shít together. My life for weeks on end now has been nothing but repetitive and negative, and it's good to have some more stability, even if only slight.
That song is great by the way.
You should try listening to Ludovico Einaudi, he's an amazing artist. 0 -
Having a borderline evening. I'm in the edge of so many emotions / feelings!
Happy! Excited! Dread! Fear! Apprehension! Nervous! Regret! Shame! Joy!
Heart going 120 bpm! Properly racing. I checked it. Kinda.
Maybe add hypochondria to the list
With all these thoughts flying through my head I'm getting very anxious. Very very anxious. Doing mindfulness etc.
I have a busy few weeks of work ahead. A little bit of travelling for meetings etc and a few important sales type pitches coming up. I don't mind them but the (potentially amazing) outcomes fill me with excitement.
I am planning conversations (from my side) in my head. Telling people things. "Talking is my treatment".
You know the way they say once am addict always an addict? Well I reckon I'm still addicted to self harm. I haven't cut in ages. Months. But tonight I (genuinely completely) accidentally managed to rub something sharp against my arm (leaned on a scissors, didn't know it was there) & the thrill & the elation. Oh wow! It was a millisecond thing - I don't think there was so much as a tiny scrawl on my arm. But the temptation... Wow. Amigos the temptation was incredible.
I didn't. I won't. But Jesus with all of these emotions flying... I'm set to BURST with all of these emotions.
I feel like I want to go for a big run but it's 12.30. Not clever. And I can't run. Severe case of couch potato.
I haven't felt such intense emotions in an age. I need to dial it down because I need to sleep. I have work tomorrow.
Anyone any thoughts?0 -
Maybe you should lie in bed, put some of your favorite tunes on and just try to relax? (Is it possible to tell somebody to relax without sounding patronizing, ugh
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Try to let the happiness,excitement and joy block out the negativity! Sometimes it works for me, the odd time
But maybe it's worth a shot. If you relax enough you may just fall asleep!
Proud of you for not self harming, i'm way too familiar with the temptation. I used to self harm when I was 16-ish, and haven't since but I'm often reunited with the temptation, reminding myself of the feeling of relief i'd feel if I did it. Sometimes it really does take a lot of strength to not do it.
Severe case of couch potato?.. Bet I have it worse I bought a selection box thing to give myself a treat once a day for the next 6 days, but of course I have eaten a packet of buttons, a crunchie, a fudge bar, a dairy milk caramel and a dairy milk, so not only do I feel morbidly obese and nauseous, I think I may also be paralyzed.
I went to the doctor today, whoooo the feeling of pride I got prescribed Gerozac (anybody have any experience on these? don't want medical advice, just personal experiences if any). She said she wanted to start me off easy and I have to call her in 2 weeks and then go back to see her in 3 months.
Really hope you're okay Hersheys xx 0 -
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Gerozac is Flouxetine, same as Prozac. Doctor might say it will take two weeks to take effect, but it can take up to 6-8 weeks, so bear this in mind. Also, it has a long half-life, which means you should not feel any ill-effects if you accidentally miss a dose.OkayWhatever wrote: »I went to the doctor today, whoooo the feeling of pride I got prescribed Gerozac (anybody have any experience on these? don't want medical advice, just personal experiences if any). She said she wanted to start me off easy and I have to call her in 2 weeks and then go back to see her in 3 months.Not your ornery onager
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OkayWhatever wrote: »Maybe you should lie in bed, put some of your favorite tunes on and just try to relax? (Is it possible to tell somebody to relax without sounding patronizing, ugh)
Try to let the happiness,excitement and joy block out the negativity! Sometimes it works for me, the odd time But maybe it's worth a shot. If you relax enough you may just fall asleep!
Proud of you for not self harming, i'm way too familiar with the temptation. I used to self harm when I was 16-ish, and haven't since but I'm often reunited with the temptation, reminding myself of the feeling of relief i'd feel if I did it. Sometimes it really does take a lot of strength to not do it.
Severe case of couch potato?.. Bet I have it worse I bought a selection box thing to give myself a treat once a day for the next 6 days, but of course I have eaten a packet of buttons, a crunchie, a fudge bar, a dairy milk caramel and a dairy milk, so not only do I feel morbidly obese and nauseous, I think I may also be paralyzed.
I went to the doctor today, whoooo the feeling of pride I got prescribed Gerozac (anybody have any experience on these? don't want medical advice, just personal experiences if any). She said she wanted to start me off easy and I have to call her in 2 weeks and then go back to see her in 3 months.
Really hope you're okay Hersheys xx
Great job on going to the doc! You should feel proud! Great news.
As for me I tried everything I could think of. Anything.
Eventually drifted off but woke up the exact same. I think I might be hyperventilating. Happened before.
Can't afford the time to sit in the doctor waiting room for 27 hours but will go as soon as I can.
I have "ants in my pants" - can't sit still!0 -
No definite day set as it's on for a week.
Hiding helps with anxiety
Chatting online we get on ok but don't do it that much. Sometimes he annoys me.
....... next......
At work, so bare with me replying
Why no definite day yet?
Does hiding really help or make whats coming up worse? Does anticipation make it worse or actually help?
Don't we all annoy somebody most weeks? Maybe he finds you annoying at times too.. Who decided on the meet?
What is the worst that could happen if you meet him?0 -
At work, so bare with me replying
Why no definite day yet?
Does hiding really help or make whats coming up worse? Does anticipation make it worse or actually help?
Don't we all annoy somebody most weeks? Maybe he finds you annoying at times too.. Who decided on the meet?
What is the worst that could happen if you meet him?
No definite date because it runs for a few days. So he's not sure what days he's working etc.
Hiding helps in a way but it also depresses me. But avoidance is safe.
He asked me to meet him. And yes I'm sure I do annoy him!
Worst thing that could happen...... Well, me being completely silent and having nothing to say. That's a common problem.
Him telling me I'm quiet or getting irritated/bored/annoyed at me having nothing to say. Also very common any time I meet anyone.
People seem to judge me so quickly. Even when I think I'm being outgoing & chatty people tell me I'm very quiet. It seems impossible. I know in theory being quiet isn't a bad thing but it is in a way because when you never have anything to say, people talk to you less.0 -
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Made it through first college half term. Night out on wednesday was a success except for me being violently ill We'll see.
Good for you Cloud that's quite an achievement. Really glad Wednesday went well (apart from the puking which I won't mention, same as I didn't mention my son's last weekend
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My boyfriend appears to be having some sort of melt down thingy. I don't blame him, I rely on him so much and expect so much support from him that I sometimes forget that he needs some support and somebody to rely on. My selfishness and expectations have just completely clouded my judgement.
He asked me to go over to his house earlier, I've been looking up jobs and applying for some (he didn't know this), so ended up not going over. He went absolutely mad at me, and sent me texts saying he wants to pass out in a ditch or throw himself under a bus, so now i'm lying in bed in hysterics crying with worry and because I know exactly how he feels.
I tried to help him. I suggested going over to him, him coming over to me (i'd pay for a taxi), meeting in town for food and to talk and nothing would work. I feel like I genuinely did try and that nothing worked. He kept telling me he didn't want to be on his own and anytime I suggested meeting he'd say no? And then gave out to me for not using my initiative He ended up accusing me of attacking him and was rejecting my calls. I'm in bits. I cry a good bit, but can't remember the last time it was so bad. I just feel so useless, I have no idea what to do!
It's just starting to feel like it's one bad thing after another, constantly and I don't know how much more I can take, it just feels unbearable these days.0 -
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Okaywhatever, what would you like him to do if it was the other way around?
Obviously i have no idea where you both live but is it too late to just turn up at his and "be there" for him?
I was thinking that but it would take me about an hour and a half to get there. Looking at €30 for a taxi. I don't know if it's a case that he wants to be mad at somebody and if I turn up after him saying no, then it's just going to lead to another argument. So hard to know what to do! Thanks Murria 0 -
OkayWhatever wrote: »I was thinking that but it would take me about an hour and a half to get there. Looking at €30 for a taxi. I don't know if it's a case that he wants to be mad at somebody and if I turn up after him saying no, then it's just going to lead to another argument. So hard to know what to do! Thanks Murria
Ok I see, well going over definitely isn't an option tonight then. Send him a text and apologise for this evening, reassure him of your feelings and make a commitment to see him either tomorrow or over the weekend. Let him know that he doesn't have to reply tonight. Then try to relax and distract yourself, there's nothing more you can do tonight and you will just upset yourself overthinking. Things might seem better tomorrow. Take care. 0 -
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