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larrymickdick · 10-08-2012, 13:00

Someone who has balance - that can take the good with the bad - knows when I'm being serious - its not appropriate to be cracking jokes to lighten the mood cos sometimes things need to be said and dealt with - and when they're dealt with we can move on.

Everyone needs their own space - but balance in that too - ok go off and do whatever on our own but don't leave the other person feeling ignored (cos you take too much space) or suffocated (cos ya don't give them enough)

Telling someone you love them and showing it - actions sometimes do speak louder than words. When you say you love me - it means all of me - not just the good times. A person that shows appreciation for what you do for them is good - anyone who lies, cheats, puts me down or treats me like I'm insiginicant is not worth my time - I want respect and if I don't get respect - thats the deal breaker

Piliger · 10-08-2012, 17:14

- Smoker
- High maintenance
- Lists of conditions in her profile
- 'no time wasters' in her profile
- 'honesty' listed in what she wants in a man

Daveysil15 · 10-08-2012, 17:32

Must be foreign.

HalloweenJack · 10-08-2012, 17:35

I wouldn't have deal-breakers before meeting someone but once getting into a relationship and getting to know the girl, there would be a few things that would create problems for me:

Religious in any way - I flat out refuse to be involved in religion and if I were to get married and have kids, it'd have to be in a registry office, the kids wouldn't be baptised and they'd go to an Educate Together school, or something like that. I simply refuse to pay lip service to any religion just to avoid hassle, it's the principle.

Clingy - I don't mind going out with someone who has different interests than me, in fact I think it's a healthy thing, but if I'm doing something that person has no interest in, I don't want to be guilted about not spending time with them.

Personal space - I need someone who understands and won't take offence at the fact that sometimes I just need to be by myself and do my own thing for a while.

Galwayguy35 · 10-08-2012, 17:55

Someone who wants something long term and would like kids eventually but who doesn't have any already.

Was involved with single mothers twice over the years and it was just too difficult, you have a kid(s) who are jealous of the time you spend with their mother and an ex hovering in the backround who thinks you want to take over playing Daddy to his kids.

Varied · 10-08-2012, 19:39

Kids (learnt my lesson here)
Someone who judges you on ambition rather than actually care that you like what you do.
Insecurity, no baggage from previous relationships.
Criticises my hobbies (gaming and the like).
High maintenance, looks obsessed and vanity.

That's it I suppose, I am easily pleased.

cantdecide · 10-08-2012, 20:33

Unwillingness to compromise or empathise sums up all my dealbreakers.

jimbobaloobob · 10-08-2012, 20:40

people with a pre concieved plan for the relationship.

not willing to work with a relationship outside of their ideals.

aya startin wha · 10-08-2012, 22:05

stupidity and selfishness.

CastorTroy · 10-08-2012, 23:14

Things that I wouldn't want:
Boring - I don't claim to be the most exciting guy, but I do have a sense of humour and like to have a laugh with others. So if they never wanted to do anything or took everything I said seriously it really wouldn't help.
High maintenance - I would assume she can take care of herself but if she wanted me to always take her away somewhere and buy her stuff, then it wouldn't last. I'm not cheap. Just have limited funds due to mortgage and car loan.
Workaholic - One relationship that was a non starter was due to her constantly working late. Wasn't entirely her fault but just didn't work out due to having to keep cancelling any plans we had.

Princess Peach · 10-08-2012, 23:35

Don't have too many I guess!

Wouldn't like a guy who was super judgmental about drugs and drinking. As in I don't have a problem at all, but I like to have fun in moderation. Couldn't deal with someone who was vehemently against it. Nor could I be with someone who did have problems with them. I don't mind someone who doesn't drink or whatever, just don't want to be judged for my choices.

Same goes for someone who is really anti-religion. I'm not very outspoken about my beliefs, but I couldn't be with someone who was very outspoken against them.

And I like them to have ambition and drive, try and better themselves as much as possible and to make themselves happy.

CastorTroy · 10-08-2012, 23:52

Those were another couple of things:
I don't drink and there are people that automatically associate that with being boring or anti drink. Of course if someone stuck with me long enough to start a relationship, then they would know the lack of drinking isn't a bad thing. Free taxi!

Smoking can be a turnoff, mainly because of the smell. I've met ones before where I would have to make my excuses and leave as the smell was so bad.

Princess Peach · 11-08-2012, 00:15

Quote:

Originally Posted by CastorTroy

Those were another couple of things:
I don't drink and there are people that automatically associate that with being boring or anti drink. Of course if someone stuck with me long enough to start a relationship, then they would know the lack of drinking isn't a bad thing. Free taxi!

Smoking can be a turnoff, mainly because of the smell. I've met ones before where I would have to make my excuses and leave as the smell was so bad.

Oh my current boyfriend doesn't drink, and he isn't anti drink. But I know some people who are!

Love my designated driver

CastorTroy · 11-08-2012, 00:20

Quote:

Originally Posted by Princess Peach

Oh my current boyfriend doesn't drink, and he isn't anti drink. But I know some people who are!

Love my designated driver

If I was anti drink it would involve disowning nearly everyone related to me as well as nearly everyone I know. Was always funny when I worked as a barman and poeople couldn't understand how a non drinker could work behind a bar.

cantdecide · 11-08-2012, 00:21

Quote:

Originally Posted by CastorTroy

Those were another couple of things:
I don't drink and there are people that automatically associate that with being boring or anti drink. Of course if someone stuck with me long enough to start a relationship, then they would know the lack of drinking isn't a bad thing. Free taxi!

Ditto. Rule #1 of non-drinking is you NEVER talk about not drinking!

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10-08-2012, 13:00	#151
larrymickdick Registered User Join Date: May 2010 Location: Dublin Posts: 163 Adverts \| Friends	Someone who has balance - that can take the good with the bad - knows when I'm being serious - its not appropriate to be cracking jokes to lighten the mood cos sometimes things need to be said and dealt with - and when they're dealt with we can move on. Everyone needs their own space - but balance in that too - ok go off and do whatever on our own but don't leave the other person feeling ignored (cos you take too much space) or suffocated (cos ya don't give them enough) Telling someone you love them and showing it - actions sometimes do speak louder than words. When you say you love me - it means all of me - not just the good times. A person that shows appreciation for what you do for them is good - anyone who lies, cheats, puts me down or treats me like I'm insiginicant is not worth my time - I want respect and if I don't get respect - thats the deal breaker

10-08-2012, 17:14	#152
Piliger Registered User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Dublin/London Posts: 2,662 Adverts \| Friends	- Smoker - High maintenance - Lists of conditions in her profile - 'no time wasters' in her profile - 'honesty' listed in what she wants in a man

10-08-2012, 17:32	#153
Daveysil15 Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: The back of beyond Posts: 1,818 Adverts \| Friends	Must be foreign.

10-08-2012, 17:35	#154
HalloweenJack Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: David Frost Garden Party Posts: 2,875 Adverts \| Friends	I wouldn't have deal-breakers before meeting someone but once getting into a relationship and getting to know the girl, there would be a few things that would create problems for me: Religious in any way - I flat out refuse to be involved in religion and if I were to get married and have kids, it'd have to be in a registry office, the kids wouldn't be baptised and they'd go to an Educate Together school, or something like that. I simply refuse to pay lip service to any religion just to avoid hassle, it's the principle. Clingy - I don't mind going out with someone who has different interests than me, in fact I think it's a healthy thing, but if I'm doing something that person has no interest in, I don't want to be guilted about not spending time with them. Personal space - I need someone who understands and won't take offence at the fact that sometimes I just need to be by myself and do my own thing for a while.

10-08-2012, 17:55	#155
Galwayguy35 Registered User Join Date: May 2010 Location: Galway Posts: 2,593 Adverts \| Friends	Someone who wants something long term and would like kids eventually but who doesn't have any already. Was involved with single mothers twice over the years and it was just too difficult, you have a kid(s) who are jealous of the time you spend with their mother and an ex hovering in the backround who thinks you want to take over playing Daddy to his kids.

10-08-2012, 19:39	#156
Varied Closed Account Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 713 Adverts \| Friends	Kids (learnt my lesson here) Someone who judges you on ambition rather than actually care that you like what you do. Insecurity, no baggage from previous relationships. Criticises my hobbies (gaming and the like). High maintenance, looks obsessed and vanity. That's it I suppose, I am easily pleased.

10-08-2012, 20:33	#157
cantdecide Registered User Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Cork Posts: 6,329 Adverts \| Friends	Unwillingness to compromise or empathise sums up all my dealbreakers.

10-08-2012, 20:40	#158
jimbobaloobob Registered User Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 981 Adverts \| Friends	people with a pre concieved plan for the relationship. not willing to work with a relationship outside of their ideals.

10-08-2012, 22:05	#159
aya startin wha Registered User Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 14 Adverts \| Friends	stupidity and selfishness.

10-08-2012, 23:14	#160
CastorTroy Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 3,806 Adverts \| Friends	Things that I wouldn't want: Boring - I don't claim to be the most exciting guy, but I do have a sense of humour and like to have a laugh with others. So if they never wanted to do anything or took everything I said seriously it really wouldn't help. High maintenance - I would assume she can take care of herself but if she wanted me to always take her away somewhere and buy her stuff, then it wouldn't last. I'm not cheap. Just have limited funds due to mortgage and car loan. Workaholic - One relationship that was a non starter was due to her constantly working late. Wasn't entirely her fault but just didn't work out due to having to keep cancelling any plans we had.

10-08-2012, 23:35	#161
Princess Peach Registered User Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Mushroom Kingdom Posts: 8,421 Adverts \| Friends	Don't have too many I guess! Wouldn't like a guy who was super judgmental about drugs and drinking. As in I don't have a problem at all, but I like to have fun in moderation. Couldn't deal with someone who was vehemently against it. Nor could I be with someone who did have problems with them. I don't mind someone who doesn't drink or whatever, just don't want to be judged for my choices. Same goes for someone who is really anti-religion. I'm not very outspoken about my beliefs, but I couldn't be with someone who was very outspoken against them. And I like them to have ambition and drive, try and better themselves as much as possible and to make themselves happy.

10-08-2012, 23:52	#162
CastorTroy Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 3,806 Adverts \| Friends	Those were another couple of things: I don't drink and there are people that automatically associate that with being boring or anti drink. Of course if someone stuck with me long enough to start a relationship, then they would know the lack of drinking isn't a bad thing. Free taxi! Smoking can be a turnoff, mainly because of the smell. I've met ones before where I would have to make my excuses and leave as the smell was so bad.