[crawlb4uwalk]

We are in west Ireland and we are looking to start a family. We have been talking about this for quite some time and we now feel it is the right time for us.

It is hard to find info and advice from people in a similar situation to us as I find that many women that have had children in a lesbian couple have had them from their previous hetro relationships.

I hope that in 2012 Ireland will do some amending and recognise the children in a gay relationship as equal to both parents. (This also extends to hetero couples who have used donor sperm/eggs who at the moment do not have these rights either)

I have found that a lot of lesbians tend to use a close gay male friends as their donor.
We would like to read about an honest-to-god lesbian couple in their late 20's/early 30's who want to start a family of their own, without a 'special uncle' but would rather an anonymous donor from an overseas bank and hope that in the next 12 months Ireland will recognise the children in a gay relationship (not that it will stop us either way!)

Any advice or info welcome on ...shopping for anonymous sperm online/through a clinic...Lesbian friendly fertility clinics in Ireland or do they care? Show them the money, right?!... Groups for young civil partnered soon to be parents... What should I feed a child with gay parents...

[TwoMums2Be]

Originally Posted by crawlb4uwalk

I hope that in 2012 Ireland will do some amending and recognise the children in a gay relationship as equal to both parents. (This also extends to hetero couples who have used donor sperm/eggs who at the moment do not have these rights)

You will find this is not really a problem for heterosexual couples as they are never assumed to not be the biological parents of the child born & so both go on the birth certificate no questions asked

Fingers crossed things will change to recognise all parents as parents no matter what the make up of the family.

I can tell you that at GFU the non carrying parent in the case of same sex couples (there is a similar form for straight couples using donor sperm) signs a form stating that she is aware and intends to be the parent of any child/children born from the procedure

Any questions, feel free to PM me!

Hi there just reading your post, we are in same position and are ready to start family, would you be willing to share info on clinic you decided to go with etc, just trying to get some good advise as info not that easy to come by...cheers

[crawlb4uwalk]

Yes I have no problems sharing the info. Private Message me and we can go from there.

[FairytaleGirl]

Theres a wonderful site called babyandbump that has a gay parenting section.

Also in Northern Ireland theres an Org called LASI - Lesbian advocacy services Initiative - They help with all sorts of things including starting a family, Maybe they can point you in the right direction?

http://www.lasionline.org/

Good Luck

[TwoMums2Be]

Feel free to PM me we now have a beautiful 9 day old baby girl & it's the best thing we have ever done

[baby and crumble]

Originally Posted by TwoMums2Be

Feel free to PM me we now have a beautiful 9 day old baby girl & it's the best thing we have ever done

Congratulations you guys, that's brilliant!

[crawlb4uwalk]

Originally Posted by TwoMums2Be

Feel free to PM me we now have a beautiful 9 day old baby girl & it's the best thing we have ever done

Congratulations !!

[Crazybrides]

Hi ,
We are a lesbian couple in the south of Ireland hoping to start a family .During our search to look for some advice on some reputable clincs etc.. we came across your posts.Which is just fantastic...... couples in the same position as us........ who better to give advice!.Congratulations to TwoMums2Be on the birth of your beautiful baby girl.Any information or advice anyone can give us would be greatly appreciated.

[WhiteRoses]

No advice but I wanted to wish you the best of luck Also, congrats to 2Mums2Be

[crawlb4uwalk]

All go! go! go! here for us this week. First appointment for follicular tracking and hopefully IUI before the week is out
I am happy to share all the info and the build up to this point. We did a lot of Googling and of course Boards.ie is so good for friendly advice!
If you would like specific information re Clinics etc PM me. Best of luck!

[Crazybrides]

Thanks Whiteroses

[Freiheit]

Im late but congrats 2 mums to be,hope your still all happy and healthy!

[WildCatXX]

Hi everyone!

I have a 4 year old son who was conceived with sperm donated from a gay friend (who is also a coparent). I was single when I had my son but have been in a relationship the last few years. We would love to add to our family but unfortunately my son's father is no longer in a position to donate so we have been considering different options. As we already have a coparent involved we wouldn't want to go down that route with someone else. I did look at some of the donor sites such as prideangels but there are an awful lot of messers out there wanting natural insemination. Ideally we would like a known donor that wants no involvement but would be open to meeting the child if it wanted to in years to come. But as known donors are so hard to find it looks like we will have to go down the clinic route. I am so broody and really want to give my son a sibling but have decided to finish my midwifery degree first (which is torture at times when I feel so broody!). Looking forward to chatting to other lesbian couples on this journey

[crawlb4uwalk]

Originally Posted by WildCatXX

Hi everyone!

I have a 4 year old son who was conceived with sperm donated from a gay friend (who is also a coparent). I was single when I had my son but have been in a relationship the last few years. We would love to add to our family but unfortunately my son's father is no longer in a position to donate so we have been considering different options. As we already have a coparent involved we wouldn't want to go down that route with someone else. I did look at some of the donor sites such as prideangels but there are an awful lot of messers out there wanting natural insemination. Ideally we would like a known donor that wants no involvement but would be open to meeting the child if it wanted to in years to come. But as known donors are so hard to find it looks like we will have to go down the clinic route. I am so broody and really want to give my son a sibling but have decided to finish my midwifery degree first (which is torture at times when I feel so broody!). Looking forward to chatting to other lesbian couples on this journey

Hiya,

Check out dk.cryosinternational.com
There are a lot of options on the site and being in Denmark they are all fairly open about themselves and the whole thing in general, unlike prudy Ireland