Join Date: Jun 2001
Location: The 2nd Circle of Hell
I'm going to give the 'unpopular' view here.
I can well understand that the job would mean you wouldn't be there for your child as much as you'd like (as opposed to how much you would need), but unless you have a partner or some other form of independent means to support you financially, this is a luxury that you cannot afford - at least cannot afford unless you choose that you want to be supported by the state.
Morality aside though, there is a price to be paid in the long term. As a single parent, you can only do this for between 23 years at most, unless you have more children to stretch things out, that is. After that you simply revert to being unemployed (indeed, I think this now happens much earlier than 23 years now) and what then? You haven't been 'employed' in one or two decades, are no longer a spring chicken and you're on the Dole. Poverty or do you expect your now adult child to carry you financially?
In the end none of us get to live our lives as we'd like. There's always compromise, and if you don't do so, it actually can cause more harm than good in the long term.