[barbiegirl]

Originally Posted by KillerKity

Hi guys, sorry for butting in but I'm hoping for some help. I had a MC in December which absolutely broke my heart and a d & c just after christmas. I cried every day for about 2 months but then started to cope with things.

I was happy again and even got engaged but now the loss has seemed to hit me again as hard as the first time. I got it into my head that my baby wasn't really gone, it was just taking a break and I'd have it back again. I got pregnant almost straight away the first time and foolishly thought it'd be easy the next time. So far all I've been getting are negative pregnancy tests. I know that baby is gone but I desperately want it back I don't know how to cope. I think I'm so sad recently as I'd be 6 months pregnant by now but all I feel is high emptiness. How do people cope?

Hi Killerkity. Your baby will always be your baby. It is not easy and can't be brushed over. You will have good days and bad days, but on the bad days let the tears flow, talk to your hubbie and get through it.
I've found on this TTC journey that having focus' other than babies really helps to keep us sane. We've had 3 losses and I have named each one, and I know they are with my dad waiting on us to meet them someday. On special days and in special churches I light candles for them.
Acknowledge your pain and your grief and feel free to come back here as a lot of us have been weher you are.

[carolinespring]

Originally Posted by KillerKity

Hi guys, sorry for butting in but I'm hoping for some help. I had a MC in December which absolutely broke my heart and a d & c just after christmas. I cried every day for about 2 months but then started to cope with things.

I was happy again and even got engaged but now the loss has seemed to hit me again as hard as the first time. I got it into my head that my baby wasn't really gone, it was just taking a break and I'd have it back again. I got pregnant almost straight away the first time and foolishly thought it'd be easy the next time. So far all I've been getting are negative pregnancy tests. I know that baby is gone but I desperately want it back I don't know how to cope. I think I'm so sad recently as I'd be 6 months pregnant by now but all I feel is high emptiness. How do people cope?

Over the years I have had many m/c's and you will have good days and bads days. I had a total bitch of a week last week. was really upset and I off loaded to some of the other girls on this fourm and that helped lots. Also had a mega cry with my husband. Now I am back to my happy positive self. No matter what from the second you find out about your baby it is your child, the dreams and hopes you have for that life and the loss of your baby takes away so much from you. I have named some of my babies and have done something each time to say goodbye in our own way.

A lot of my due dates I dont remember, I think I have blocked then out to cope but some are very much in my mind and i do find those days hard. For some reason I have 3 dates that knock me but I know they will and make a paln for it.

Its also good to plan things that are not to do with TTC and to get out and enjoy life. Myself and my husband really try to not let all this take over all of our life. After all we had and wanted each other before this and we have each other still. Thankfully we are a very close couple who cn talk about anything and we make each other stronger.

I think the main advice I can give you is to talk, cry and allow yourself to feel sad but be mindful if you are going into a deep depression to go see your GP. you have the right to cry and feel sad for your baby and for what could have been,

Caroline

[yellow hen]

Hi girls, how was everyone's weekend?

Im cd12 today, on my second week of clomid so not really sure when I am ovulating as I'm not sure the monitor is accurate with clomid. Anyways I'm guessing its any day this week so just dtd every second day to be sure!

I've noticed in the last two months that I have a definitely dull achiness around my ovaries and sometimes sex can be a little uncomfortable. I'm not sure if this has anything to do with the dermoid cysts I had removed or if its anything to do with the clomid. Has anyone else had anything like this?

[meggysmom]

Originally Posted by yellow hen

Hi girls, how was everyone's weekend?

Im cd12 today, on my second week of clomid so not really sure when I am ovulating as I'm not sure the monitor is accurate with clomid. Anyways I'm guessing its any day this week so just dtd every second day to be sure!

I've noticed in the last two months that I have a definitely dull achiness around my ovaries and sometimes sex can be a little uncomfortable. I'm not sure if this has anything to do with the dermoid cysts I had removed or if its anything to do with the clomid. Has anyone else had anything like this?

Hello there,great quite weekend,i'm day 13 and today is prob ovulation day with signs and thermometer-ha yes I never threw it away,decided to just use it for 1st half of cycle confirm ovulation and then stop,the week af is due is just causing me to not sleep great and wake to early so theres the plan.
This acheyness was one of the reasons I went to beacon in the 1st place.On my 1st consultation I explanined this to him and the uncomfortable feeling during sex at certain times.He said if we go in there and there is nothing major going on there,it is possible you just have a sensitive pelvic area(great)!!!Anyway this is 3rd cycle since lap and this month has been much better,no period pain and ovulation pain very mild.I have also used pre-seed religiously this month and bding has been very confortable,wonder if it is a lubrication problem.Will definitly be purchasing more.
How have you scans been on clomid?Did your blood cysts dissappear?

[yellow hen]

Hi meggysmom, I had a scan on my first clomid month which showed several follicles. One looked stronger than the others so the consultant guessed that was the clomid follicle which would mature further. The blood cysts did dissappear so maybe I will just continue to have cysts appear/disappear causing some discomfort. The pain isnt a big deal but I think when you are ttc you are aware of every ache, pain and movement in your pelvic region

I too have been using preseed. So we're synced up again this month. hopefully this will be a lucky month for both of us

[meggysmom]

yes I think your right with being very tuned in to our bodies while ttc.It wasn't a major thing for me either but definitly something which had my mind working overtime.Fingers crossed this month:)keep us posted

[barbiegirl]

Well we had our first Napro appointment today, and it was a lot to take in.
He suspects I have endometriosis and I've to book in a laparsocopy to check for that, I've had bloods taken for food allergies, I've been put on Naltrexone for my dopermine levels, lots of vitamin C, Vit D, Fish Oils and free radicals.
We've to meet our teacher in 2 weeks to start blood tests and are due back with him the end of July
I feel positive that we are doing something and that he feels we have an 80% plus chance of a successful outcome, whereas the time we went to SIMShe said 60% chance of mis-carrying.
Overall a very positive experience, so fingers crossed girls

[Popel]

What do you think about some good news?

I last posted here six months ago with my small thin positive, which unfortunately quickly became a miscarriage. I followed this thread before then, and continued afterwards too.

Well this morning I got my Big Fat Positive

I had caught a virus last week, was dying in bed for a few days, along with my husband, but while my husband´s cleared away after four days or so, I still had lingering headaches and queasy feeling. Started getting suspicious over the weekend, cos something just felt different about my stomach/boobs. I also recalled that the week before I had wanted (and had) a certain type of sandwich for lunch every single day, for ten days in a row. Very unusual. Well, so this morning it was confirmed. Just gotta get on to the doctor today. So happy, and am staying confident about this pregnancy.

Hope more good news piles into this thread too,

xxPopel

[Custard Cream]

hi Popel, congragulations. When are you due? Brilliant news

[meggysmom]

popal congrats,love hearing great news like yours,good luck to you:)keep us posted!

[Popel]

thanks for all the congatulations, feel so great and positive this time. I've my appointment made, it'll be in two weeks time, so fingers crossed til then.

I think I'm due just after christmas, though I went three days early on my first, so maybe it'll be on christmas day, though I think I'd be hoping it'd come late instead of that.

[yellow hen]

Congrats Popel! Great news..and its great to hear that you feel so positive this time. Happy pregnancy to you

Im cd14 today but ran out of clearblue sticks yesterday so just used some internet cheapies yest and today and there wasnt even a hint of a line on the stick. Im pretty sure I must be ovulating some day now if I havent already but it would have been nice to see some confirmation! Anyhoo, will just have to wait and see.

Any newses with anyone else?

[stickybean]

Ah congratulations Popel, and thanks for coming back on and sharing - I always love to hear some good news x

I've started PMTing already - so annoyed only CD8

[javagal]

hey everyone just saying hello!
Congrats on everyone's good news, makes my day to see positives on this thread!

just a thought, i know you all know your bodies but for those of you who are pms-ing, i could of put money on my period being on the way when i got my bfp - so dont count yourselves out until the fat red lady sings !

10 weeks to go till my baby girl is here!

[yellow hen]

omg java, only 10 weeks left! Thats when I know I've been on this thread far too long

Come on uterus, it's time to promote ourselves to the pregnancy thread!