Wow. Way to twist what I said. Also, as a survivor of sexual assualt I find your "provocative clothes" comment to be hideously offensive. If you actually read what I said, I was referring to your inability to see the role you play in your own relationship. Everything is everyone else's doing. This is an immature attitude to have.
Nobody said you are responsible for her conduct. You are however responsible for your response to her conduct.
Oh come on OP. You didn't want a dramatic scene so instead you continued the night (and alcohol consumption) with this woman despite her attempts to get you to dump your partner. By not removing yourself from the situation it escalated to involving your parnter directly. You could have easily told your parntner that you wanted to go home and explain it to her after you left.
You know what's not going to be helpful for you OP? Your extreme, overreaction to posts that don't tell you exactly what you want to hear. If your reaction here is any indication of how you behave in person when things aren't going your way then you really need to take a good look at yourself.
I certainly do not wish to have any more correspondance with someone who could stoop so low.