Hi everyone I was just looking for some advice about this situation as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable.
I'm 19 and in first year college in Dublin. I'm living in student accommodation and I share a room with another girl. In the first term she had her boyfriend stay over about once a week sometimes more,This could sound ridiculous but I wasn't that comfortable with a guy I didn't know in my room since I didn't know her well either and he never made any effort to talk to me and made it clear I was in the way which I often couldn't help particularly at the start when I didn't know many people in Dublin. I definitely wasn't imagining this either since he wouldn't come over because they had plans to go anywhere he would come over for a romantic night in with his girlfriend. She never considered me in her arrangements, like if I wasn't going to be there on a given night she might still have him over a night that I was there because it suited her better. This was all mainly my fault because I was too shy to say how I felt and was terrified of falling out with her. Anyway, things all came to a head at Christmas when they locked me out of the room.We'd all had too much to drink and ended up in a massive disagreement over it all. The next day she told me he wouldn't be coming over again when I was there.
That was grand and went on until a couple of weeks ago when she asked if it was ok if he came over for 2 nights before the end of the year. He came and stayed over valentines night which was ok because I was out for most of the night. The other night she wanted to have him stay was Paddys day when I won't be there.
Yesterday I got a text from her asking if it's ok if he stays Sunday night as well. I decided to tell her the truth that I'd rather he didn't because I don't want it being a regular thing like it was before Christmas. She went mad saying I was ruining her last month in college and she was so hurt and couldn't believe I was doing this to. He has a single room in Maynooth and there's nothing stopping her going over there.
Is this ridiculous of me ? Did I leave it too late to say anything? The whole issue at Christmas was really awful and I never though he'd come over again after that.
I'm sorry for the essay I know this is a really tiny issue and I should just be able to deal with it but I just need advice if at all possible. Thanks so much