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24-02-2012, 23:18   #16
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I helped my mother get divorced from my father. My mother got all the paperwork and i (I was working with my father at the time) brought the papers he needed to sign to him. The only thing he had to do was sign them in front of a Garda,priest or peace commissioner and have them counter sign to prove he'd done it of his own free will.

My mother then took the paperwork to her solicitor and went to court where a judge okayed the whole thing. From her case being called to the judge giving the ok was 60 seconds. Whole thing cost her €300 about 7 years ago.
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Do you have to prove that you are four years Separated from your spouse? are there any exceptions to this rule?
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01-03-2012, 10:45   #18
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Do you have to prove that you are four years Separated from your spouse? are there any exceptions to this rule?
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I am doing my divorce on my own without a solicitor or DIY company. The court clerk has been most helpful and fingers crossed it will all get done for less than €50. There is just registered post costs when you serve papers on your ex and also a commissioner for oaths will charge about €10 to sign your affidavits.
I will let ye know if it goes as smoothly as I hope it will.
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OP - I may sound cynical but ... she may agree now, but when she sits in front of her own solicitor (after being urged to by her friends and family) she may change her mind.
I would suggest you find a good period when relations are smooth and agree to visit a joint solicitor and put some kind of written agreement in place before starting down the legal path.
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18-04-2012, 20:09   #22
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I am doing my divorce on my own without a solicitor or DIY company. The court clerk has been most helpful and fingers crossed it will all get done for less than €50. There is just registered post costs when you serve papers on your ex and also a commissioner for oaths will charge about €10 to sign your affidavits.
I will let ye know if it goes as smoothly as I hope it will.

Well, I waited the 10 days from serving notice on my ex and now I have been back to the commissioner for oaths and got the next part of the paperwork witnessed and sent in to the court (with the receipt for registered delivery attached to it).

Went to meet the court clerk again today so he gave me a date for the divorce hearing...May 9th ...and he is emailing me the next two parts of the paperwork which I must fill in, get witnessed and serve one on the ex and post other to the court.

Then I just wait until May 9th...take the day off work and fingers crossed all will go well.

There was a letter I sent with the first lot of paperwork to the ex ....which he was to sign and return to say he does not contest the divorce basically...well, of course he didn't bother doing that. I understand that the judge would prefer if that was returned....but it still shouldn't hold things up.

I am hoping that ex will not turn up at the court...and all will go well...

Will keep ye updated with the outcome and total costs,

Snowdaze x
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I really hope it works out for you Snowdaze, best of luck on the 9th, you'll have to come back and tell us how you get on
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DIY divorces are only inexpensive so long as your divorce is going to be clean cut. In other words, all issues surrounding the divorce has already been arranged, such as property divided, maintenance set in place, and access for any children arranged. You must also be living no less than 4 years apart to apply for a divorce.

I was in a district court waiting room where a guy got chatting to me, and he said he went for one of the DIY divorces, and it was the best thing he ever did. However, he did say that there were no complications in his case, so it worked out.

My advice to you would be to get all that sorted out before you apply for your DIY divorce
im away four years plus and my concern is its not legaly seperated .. however ive a legal court order of paying maitenience .etc and my address is officialy changed. on the live regester etc.. any advice be great on the 4 year apart thing would be great. .
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I really hope it works out for you Snowdaze, best of luck on the 9th, you'll have to come back and tell us how you get on
thanks Abi - will get back to ye with the outcome
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goodluck snowdaze, I'm hoping that'll be me in the not too distant future. Keep us posted please!
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Got a letter today from ex's new solicitor demanding a new access order be built into the divorce before he will consent to it!!! There already is an access order since the Judicial separation but it didn't work out and he hasn't kept in touch with the kids for over 2 years!
There is more crap in the letter too but I won't bore ye!
Just over a week until court and I suppose I was being too positive to think there would be no upset en route...
Will keep ye updated!
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Got a letter today from ex's new solicitor demanding a new access order be built into the divorce before he will consent to it!!! There already is an access order since the Judicial separation but it didn't work out and he hasn't kept in touch with the kids for over 2 years!
There is more crap in the letter too but I won't bore ye!
Just over a week until court and I suppose I was being too positive to think there would be no upset en route...
Will keep ye updated!
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Feck anyway Snowdaze, I was hoping you would be home and dry with this. What is he looking to change? :/
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It went terribly!!!

well - I had my day in court....long wait and got in eventually...

My ex turned up yet he had not got an entry of appearance lodged with the court in advance...so that was the first thing that was wrong.

He did not have a solicitor either but said he wanted one and would be applying for legal aid - judge asked him why he hadnt done this already!!!!!

He said he was not happy to agree to divorce..he wanted access sorted out!!!! Yawn yawn...he has not seen the kids in 2 years and only responded to my letter a few weeks ago saying he wanted it when I asked if he was interested because it is something my son would like....

It makes my blood boil.....

It looks like that will be the end of the nice simple DIY divorce for me! It will only work for non- contested divorces. I thought because I already have the judicial separation that it would be simple...but I should not have been so naieve and thought that my ex would be co-operative!

So- that is it for now. My ex who works on the side pays no taxes no maintenance will get legal aid and make my life hell all over again...

not a happy bunny tonight...

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It went terribly!!!

well - I had my day in court....long wait and got in eventually...

My ex turned up yet he had not got an entry of appearance lodged with the court in advance...so that was the first thing that was wrong.

He did not have a solicitor either but said he wanted one and would be applying for legal aid - judge asked him why he hadnt done this already!!!!!

He said he was not happy to agree to divorce..he wanted access sorted out!!!! Yawn yawn...he has not seen the kids in 2 years and only responded to my letter a few weeks ago saying he wanted it when I asked if he was interested because it is something my son would like....

It makes my blood boil.....

It looks like that will be the end of the nice simple DIY divorce for me! It will only work for non- contested divorces. I thought because I already have the judicial separation that it would be simple...but I should not have been so naieve and thought that my ex would be co-operative!

So- that is it for now. My ex who works on the side pays no taxes no maintenance will get legal aid and make my life hell all over again...

not a happy bunny tonight...

Snowdaze x
Aw snowdaze, I'm so sorry to hear that it all went so wrong >.<

I was really hoping he wouldnt throw any spanners in the works for you, and whats worse is - legal aid have a list going out the window of clients. hes going to have to get onto that straight away (unlikely) or this will never come to a close =/

My ex keeps throwing in spanners, and like yourself it makes your blood boil. I just want to put an end to it all and get on with my life.

You were saying you have a judicial separation? well what access was arranged at the time?

Try not to get too disheartened over it, I've a divorce celebration to focus on, so when the bad days hit I just think - Lake Garda, glass of wine, good food - it will happen!

Stay determined and as positive as you can hon x
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