Originally Posted by snowdaze
It went terribly!!!
well - I had my day in court....long wait and got in eventually...
My ex turned up yet he had not got an entry of appearance lodged with the court in advance...so that was the first thing that was wrong.
He did not have a solicitor either but said he wanted one and would be applying for legal aid - judge asked him why he hadnt done this already!!!!!
He said he was not happy to agree to divorce..he wanted access sorted out!!!! Yawn yawn...he has not seen the kids in 2 years and only responded to my letter a few weeks ago saying he wanted it when I asked if he was interested because it is something my son would like....
It makes my blood boil.....
It looks like that will be the end of the nice simple DIY divorce for me! It will only work for non- contested divorces. I thought because I already have the judicial separation that it would be simple...but I should not have been so naieve and thought that my ex would be co-operative!
So- that is it for now. My ex who works on the side pays no taxes no maintenance will get legal aid and make my life hell all over again...
not a happy bunny tonight...
Aw snowdaze, I'm so sorry to hear that it all went so wrong >.<
I was really hoping he wouldnt throw any spanners in the works for you, and whats worse is - legal aid have a list going out the window of clients. hes going to have to get onto that straight away (unlikely) or this will never come to a close =/
My ex keeps throwing in spanners, and like yourself it makes your blood boil. I just want to put an end to it all and get on with my life.
You were saying you have a judicial separation? well what access was arranged at the time?
Try not to get too disheartened over it, I've a divorce celebration to focus on, so when the bad days hit I just think - Lake Garda, glass of wine, good food - it will happen!
Stay determined and as positive as you can hon