Originally Posted by Vereena
Would it make a difference had I been woman?
I think the point zxcvbnm1 was making is would you be posting here umming and ahing over writing a letter to try to befriend a bloke?
I've never had to write to someone to ask that they become my friend, nor have I been so detached from someone's actual life that I've ever considered writing to them to try to generate a friendship and I'd find both doing so or receiving a letter from someone in those circumstances distinctly odd.
That said, what have you got to loose? It's her decision if she wants to meet or be friends, or even reply. Write to her and if you get a reply take it from there, if you don't though - I'd advise you to draw a line under it and in future look for friendships with people whom you actually interact with and can ask in person if they want to meet for coffee or whatever...
All the best.