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  • Registered Users Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    The mechanics of it? I think you could guess without having to watch it no.
    Whats next, curious about what it would be like to be in the video??

    I just dont think thats very straight behaviour at all, if it was my boyfriend i'd be gone like a shot!!!

    I've looked at gay porn out of curiosity as well, I have a few gay friends, wanted to see what goes on, told my girlfriend about it too and she thought it was quite open minded. Looking at gay porn doesnt make me gay, same as being able to look at another man and see why women would think he's attractive doesnt either,nor does going to gay clubs with my gay friends and enjoying myself. I'm not gay, not bi, not even bi-curious, perfectly straight, always have and will be, good thing not everyone in the world is as small minded as you eh?


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    No, for a straight man to watch gay porn on a regular basis is not normal at all - it is in fact rather abnormal. Most men I've spoken to, including myself, would have watched many types of porn out of mere curiosity although it wouldnt be in any way regular.

    If you've noticed visits to this particular material on a regular basis via his internet browsing history (which is really none of your busniess wheither you're his other half or not) then either he's frequently looking at gay porn and has bisexual tendencies or else he could be visiting straight porn sites and these entries are a result of pop-ups advertising other sites that contain clips of gay porn which isn't uncommon at all. You should be aware that it doesn't necessarily mean he's watching it.

    I'm straight and I watch gay porn. I have no intention of ever hooking up with a guy, nor do I find guys attractive at all. Its just something different. Its just homoerotic fantasy. If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    I would only really get worried if he started actively pursuing gay sex. For now, I would say leave him be.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭Fink Goddie


    krudler wrote: »
    I've looked at gay porn out of curiosity as well, I have a few gay friends, wanted to see what goes on, told my girlfriend about it too and she thought it was quite open minded. Looking at gay porn doesnt make me gay, same as being able to look at another man and see why women would think he's attractive doesnt either,nor does going to gay clubs with my gay friends and enjoying myself. I'm not gay, not bi, not even bi-curious, perfectly straight, always have and will be, good thing not everyone in the world is as small minded as you eh?

    Funny how you just focused in on my post eh, when there were planty of other people posting the same thing. :rolleyes:
    Wanted to see what goes on???????? Can you not guess what goes on, ya dont need to watch it to know that!
    A totally straight guy wouldnt be interested in seeing that IMO!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Fink Goddie banned for one week for off topic and unhelpful posting.


  • Registered Users Posts: 30 thedeadp0et


    kjl wrote: »
    If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    You have the right to your opinion, but this is just plain wrong, and if you can't see why then I'm afraid you most likely have a serious intellectual handicap.
    You've made an assuption here. You should never assume, you'll more often than not be embarassingly wrong.

    I have never ever had a homoerotic fantasy and if I did I'd admit it as I am who I am and I would never be ashamed of myself. Just because you probably have really doesnt mean every other man has.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    thedeadp0et Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    This site does not tolerate personal abuse, attack the post not the poster.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


  • Registered Users Posts: 17,247 ✭✭✭✭6th


    You have the right to your opinion, but this is just plain wrong, and if you can't see why then I'm afraid you most likely have a serious intellectual handicap.
    You've made an assuption here. You should never assume, you'll more often than not be embarassingly wrong.

    Banned for 1 week for the bit in bold.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    kjl wrote: »
    If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    I would only really get worried if he started actively pursuing gay sex. For now, I would say leave him be.

    The first part I really think is simply ridiculous. What are you basing that on?

    Second part, well I think your biased by your own behaviour. Which if I had to guess, would think quite unusual.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,582 ✭✭✭newmember2


    I've looked at a lot of pr0n of all sorts and have to say that it's never even occurred to me to watch gay porn*. Am I abnormal?






    Until now...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,700 ✭✭✭irishh_bob


    kjl wrote: »
    I'm straight and I watch gay porn. I have no intention of ever hooking up with a guy, nor do I find guys attractive at all. Its just something different. Its just homoerotic fantasy. If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    I would only really get worried if he started actively pursuing gay sex. For now, I would say leave him be.

    when you say you watch gay porn , can you be more specific , how often and for how long , is it merley a case of when flicking through the channells if you land on gay tv , you pause for a brief few seconds or is it that you have a regular time slot for male on male erotica


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    If posters will not be pressurised into elborating on thier posts.
    This is not about the surfing patterns of any but the OP's parter
    please keep all post on topic and helpful to the OP.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    kjl wrote: »
    If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    OP, I'd definitely ignore this as "advice" because I can state for a fact that this poster is incorrect.

    And kjl, please don't come back and suggest that I'm lying to myself.....


  • Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    sam34 wrote: »
    i think its only in mens fantasies that most women have lesbian tendencies!

    i would never look at lesbian porn, but i look at straight porn and gay male porn

    the female body does nothing whatsoever for me in terms of turning me on, and i know my female friends say the same thing

    having said that, i dont think looking at a particular genre of porn means someone wants to participate in that, necessarily.



    Completely agree. Society tells women that its most women have lesbian tendencies... but thats a fairly new idea - which has come about over the last few decades inspired by porn - made by men!

    I'm not even slightly bi and neither are 90% of my female friends, even though there would be no stigma to acknowledging it among the girls if we were.

    This whole 'all women are bi' myth really annoys me actually.

    However, I do believe that everyone's sexuality is on a continuum. My husband is not in any way homophobic but he would probably puke if you showed him gay porn, while my ex told me about quite a few homosexual experiences... which did throw me a little bit at first until I asked myself this question:

    If the man was gay, would he be comfortable to live that way or would he try to suppress it and live a conventional hetero lifestyle?

    I believe that my ex with the gay experiences would have come out if he felt his true orientation was homosexual, so that took a lot of doubt out of mind. Even if you feel your fella would attempt to suppress his homosexuality... that still doesn't mean he's gay, he might just have been curious - though something tells me you wouldn't be posting here if it was just a small amount of gay porn. You need to talk to him. A woman I know had a similar problem and ended up insisting her fella go for counselling to work out his sexuality, as when confronted, he hadn't denied being confused. They have since broken up, and he now dates men.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,542 ✭✭✭Captain Darling


    tbh wrote: »
    I'm a straight man, and I've watched the odd clip because I was curious about the mechanics of it.

    I'd just like to remind thunderdome regulars that it's forbidden in the charter to quote posts from PI :)
    I got your back dude.....

    /pun intended.

    ;)


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,696 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    I got your back dude.....

    /pun intended.

    ;)

    Banned. It's not like there isn't enough warnings about the place.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    irishh_bob wrote: »
    when you say you watch gay porn , can you be more specific , how often and for how long , is it merley a case of when flicking through the channells if you land on gay tv , you pause for a brief few seconds or is it that you have a regular time slot for male on male erotica

    Well I was trying to put the OP at ease, I don't regularly do it, but from time to time, when the mood strikes I look at it. I never said anything about normal or abnormal, I was simply stating that fact that it's not uncommon for straight guys to watch gay porn. As has been stated before sexuality isn't black or white, it's mixed.

    From my point of view, I don't look at footballers and think oh he's cute, nor can I tell if a guy is attractive. But I do feel that way about women. Its simply the sexual act that turns me on. Its just a fantasy and it's harmless.

    Just as an FYI, this whole idea of grouped sexuality is only been around since the early 20th century, Shakespeare was bisexual, as were many other famous figure. Greek and Roman solderers we notorious for sleeping around with each other. And as for Liam and all the other guys on this forum, if all the women in the world were to disappear tomorrow you would all be humping each other within a year, and there are plenty of studies and case's in point that prove that.

    My advice still stands, don't go accusing him of being gay unless he actual goes and sleeps with a man.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,700 ✭✭✭irishh_bob


    kjl wrote: »
    Well I was trying to put the OP at ease, I don't regularly do it, but from time to time, when the mood strikes I look at it. I never said anything about normal or abnormal, I was simply stating that fact that it's not uncommon for straight guys to watch gay porn. As has been stated before sexuality isn't black or white, it's mixed.

    From my point of view, I don't look at footballers and think oh he's cute, nor can I tell if a guy is attractive. But I do feel that way about women. Its simply the sexual act that turns me on. Its just a fantasy and it's harmless.

    Just as an FYI, this whole idea of grouped sexuality is only been around since the early 20th century, Shakespeare was bisexual, as were many other famous figure. Greek and Roman solderers we notorious for sleeping around with each other. And as for Liam and all the other guys on this forum, if all the women in the world were to disappear tomorrow you would all be humping each other within a year, and there are plenty of studies and case's in point that prove that.

    My advice still stands, don't go accusing him of being gay unless he actual goes and sleeps with a man.


    your experiences are not regular or typical of most straight men IMO , never once has the mood struck me to go and watch gay porn , in fact , ive never in my life deliberatley looked it up beit online or other , i have no problem with gay people whatsoever ( have a gay cousin who i get on great with ) but i couldnt bring myself to ever watch two men engage in a sexual act , i imagine my views are that of the overwhelming majority of straight men , fine if you like to occasionally check gay porn out but i think you are in a tiny minority who do this


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    I never said I was in a majority. I was just explaining to the OP that there are some cases.

    and btw, it tends to be married men who are on most of those ns sites, so what does that say about your theory? Mainly people go on there to just look up alternatives, a fantasy. Sometimes men are attracted to the physical side or gay sex but not necessarily attracted to men.


  • Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I look at it too occasionally and I'm straight - it would always be in a group/threesome so there'd always be a woman involved.

    Sometimes it's just to look at something completely different if I'm bored of straight porn or more so, just something more kinky.

    I've never been with a man or have any desire to be.

    I don't know what goes on in other guys heads, nor do I care.

    Just cos I look at it, doesn't mean that I gay.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    kjl wrote: »
    I never said I was in a majority. I was just explaining to the OP that there are some cases.

    eh....

    [quote=kjlIf all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.[/quote]
    nbeneeee wrote:
    I look at it too occasionally and I'm straight - it would always be in a group/threesome so there'd always be a woman involved.

    Sometimes it's just to look at something completely different if I'm bored of straight porn or more so, just something more kinky.

    I don't think its counts as gay porn if the men aren't interacting with one another.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    Regular poster, going unreg for this one.

    I was on my OH's computer today doing some research for a project I am doing when I came across a porn site that he seemed to be going onto regularly. Now, usually I have no problem with porn at all, I find it a healthy part of our relationship as we usually view it together. The videos that I discovered however all involved men partaking in a variety of sexual acts.

    We have a very open and honest relationship and I only assume that him keeping this from me means that he is ashamed? Embarrased by being turned on by members of the same sex? He's a very traditional man and although we have homosexual friends, he is never fully comfortable around them, much to all of our amusement.

    I am not worried about it, simply wondering is it normal for straight men to view gay porn?

    If you have gay friends and he feels uncomfortable, maybe he is trying to overcome this by looking at gay porn to see what goes on etc To get things clear in his mind, accept it more and then be less uncomfortable with these people. Sometimes its the not knowing that can be more scary and intimidating.

    Men and women look at porn, both straight and gay porn and there is no gender that does or doesnt do either of them 100% despite what some posters think.

    OP is this an issue for you (you are being turned off him, you doubt him etc etc) or are you just trying to suss out why someone would look at gay porn?


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,257 ✭✭✭extra-ordinary_


    I don't look at gay porn and I avoid heterosexual anal porn also as it turns me off rather than on - but that's just my personal preference. Each to their own.
    Curiosity can lead to looking at anything on the internet but repeated viewing indicates some sort of fascination IMO. It's a delicate subject but you need to find some way to raise it with your partner. You could ask how he feels about threesomes, and then maybe push it on from there?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,487 ✭✭✭aDeener


    krudler wrote: »
    I've looked at gay porn out of curiosity as well, I have a few gay friends, wanted to see what goes on, told my girlfriend about it too and she thought it was quite open minded. Looking at gay porn doesnt make me gay, same as being able to look at another man and see why women would think he's attractive doesnt either,nor does going to gay clubs with my gay friends and enjoying myself. I'm not gay, not bi, not even bi-curious, perfectly straight, always have and will be, good thing not everyone in the world is as small minded as you eh?

    whats small minded about not wanting your other half watching other people having sex? would it be small minded to be opposed to your oh standing there in the room watching it as opposed to behind a screen?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,401 ✭✭✭✭Anti


    GiftofGab wrote: »
    I am male and I think that this is not normal at all. Well, not normal for a straight guy. I would honestly think that any male that looks up any sort of gay porn is a homosexual (or bi since his is your OH). If he is frequently looking at it, you should be very worried. As a male, I would not be one bit curious at all. I have never viewed gay porn.

    100% agree

    I'm male, and straight. And would never even want to look up gay porn to be honest. I think you need to talk to your OH and find out whats going on.


  • Registered Users Posts: 30 thedeadp0et


    I don't look at gay porn and I avoid heterosexual anal porn also as it turns me off rather than on - but that's just my personal preference. Each to their own.
    Curiosity can lead to looking at anything on the internet but repeated viewing indicates some sort of fascination IMO. It's a delicate subject but you need to find some way to raise it with your partner. You could ask how he feels about threesomes, and then maybe push it on from there?

    This is something I quite like, though I will stress I'd have to be the giver rather than the receiver. I'll also say that should a man want to be on the receiving end of heterosexual anal sex, I dont feel this displays any signs of homosexual tendency either. It certainly wouldn't be for me, though.

    OP, have you taken on board any of the advice in this thread and spoken with your OH? I'm very curious to learn what his reaction either was or will be.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    krudler wrote: »
    Plenty of straight girls look at lesbian porn, whats the difference?

    I'm female, and I don't know any other women who look at lesbian porn. Its come up in chat a few times and the average response is "yeugh thats disgusting", "not at all interesting" or "I'd pretend to like it to get male attention".

    I think this is a male fantasy.

    As for a guy looking at gay male porn, I'd definatley say he was curious. You can't tell anything else from the situation, but I think its quite a big deal in a relationship, so I'd ask him outright about it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    This thread was posted in February 2010 - I think we can take it as read that the OP will have reached a conclusion about their issue by now.

    Could posters please note the date of threads they are posting in.

    Many thanks


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