Stag night - what is the best lapdancing club in Dublin?

Iago wrote:

so if your bf told you he was going to a lapdancing club for a birthday or stag or whatever that would be ok?


iago, what i'm saying is that there's a difference between going to a lapdancing club on the sly (i.e. "for drinks"), and being open and upfront about it. that being said, i still wouldn't appreciate it, like it, or think it absoultely necessary...of course women and men will probably disagree on this point, although i'm sure there are some really "secure" women out there who like to make out it wouldn't bother them in the slightest..oh no.



It's all about trust I think, if you trust your bf then you know that it's harmless fun,


i disagree. it's not all about trust. it's all about respect. if both partners are into it, fine. if both partners attend, fine. if both partners want to see what it's like/want to turn themselves on for later, fine.
when these prerequisites are not involved the stage is set for a lot of secrecy, hurt and sense of betrayal, even if "nothing has happened."

you may not understand the lure, but you accept that there is no threat there, on the other hand if you don't trust him there's a problem, although the bigger problem is what possible direction your relationship can go in if there is no trust there..


i agree 100%. a relationship with issues of trust and betrayal (no matter the degree) should not be further unnecessarily tested by this type of seedy, instant-gratification "lure," in my humble opinion. it only exascerbates things.


I agree with your point about things being reversed though, he would have to accept the fact that you might want to go to a chippendales night or something similar, again as long as there is trust there shoudln't be an issue..


for the record, although i haven't been to a chippendales night, i have been to a strip club with a group of girls while single. now the one i went to was hardly a high-class joint, and the men less than stellar, so maybe it's that that's put me off the whole idea/environement, that and the fact that it made me feel like i was some desperate person. that being said, *there is a difference in going along to a lapdancing club for a stag night/whatever, and actually having a private dance yourself*


I wouldn't have a problem with my gf going to one of these nights at all, other than the fact that she might expect me to perform a similar routine when she came home


you can say that with a light-hearted tone now, but i'm sure if the situation did occur it might invoke a feeling of lacking on your part, that perhaps you weren't enough, or fit enough, that your woman had to turn elsewhere to get her kicks..we're all human after all..


just as a point though, it's generally accepted that women tend to lose control a lot more than men in these situations, maybe it's all that repressed sexual energy


maybe it's just their chance to make men feel like the sex objects for a change, and project that 20-30 years of objectification onto the weaker sex...