Im not sure if this is in the right place but didnt think it would suit the sex and sexuality forum but please move it if so.
Basically my bf(25) wants to have anal sex- which i (22)dont mind-im with him 2 and a half years and im mad about him
But basically i am worried about him pulling out and having my **** on his cock(this is 1 of the main reasons iv shyed away from anal sex in the past) the pain isnt an issue for me ive used sex toys in that area before.
Anyway like i said its prob me bein totally stupid and worrying over nothing- but its a major issue for me- i am too embarased to ask my mates or sisters- i remember 1 of my mates saying 1 night that before anal sex she used to use a bottle brush to make sure she was clean(think it wasa joke)
Personally i feel a right tit asking this, i know my bf wouldnt think its a big deal but if it happened id die
It is unlikely but can happen. You can go to the toilet beforehand and then shower.
Use a rubber and lots of lube. Use a finger or two first.
Just go to the freakin toilet before trying it or don't eat for a few hours... come on, common sense here people!
In the MANY times I've done it, that has never happened, at most there might be a little on the top, but thats it, easily avoidable by just taking a dunk before you start.
colonoscipy, enema, laxative.
all your pre anal supplies, get your self cleaned out, then shower, then enjoy. good luck
Never had that problem tbh.
how do you avoid the pain side. have done it a few times and find there is one bit that is excruciating. how do you stop it hurting. sometimes i feel like i am about to pass out.
Surely you jest. Colonoscopy ? you know what that is right?
Laxative? Jesus christ.
Well regardless of whether you see anything there or not it is not safe to then enjoy some more vanilla sex afterwards, as such use a condom and change condoms/remove the condom before continuing with anything else.
As for the potential offputting aspect of what might come out you could always use the loo and douche (think that's the spelling, effectively a small enema but with the goal of rinsing out rather than relieving constipation) beforehand.
edit: * I'm listed as the newest poster yeah Le Rack was after me.... odd...
As long as you don't actually need to crap there shouldn't be any fesis in outer part of the rectum where the penis enters, I was a bit freaked about this too but tis fine!
By noit rushing it, getting to a full arousal state. Lots of lubricant and gentle exploration with fingers first.
Also initial penetration should be at the receptive partners pace not the other way around
Nope i have read texts where the use of a laxative was mentioned
Or maybe just don't do it if you've any reservations. Never understood it myself - pain for her, pleasure for him...? Great balance of power there.
There are many nerve bundles back there and supposedly it allows stimulation of nerves in the rear wall of the vagina too, as such some women absolutely love it.
You also need to make sure that there is an understanding that if you find it uncomfortable he will pull out immediately as it may take quite a while to relax enough for it to go in without any discomfort, and any discomfort will be even worse once he starts thrusting.
If it's that painful, he's not doing it properly. It's a lot of fun.
This conversation has put me off asking doing this with a girl. Not worth it
Totally worth it from both perspectives!
It's not as gruesome as seem sto be coming off here at all!
Because for the most part the anal muscles are a lot tighter than the vaginal muscles, there is more pressure and friction on the penis, making it better for him, and the nerve bundles stimulatet he woman, it can also massage the back of the vaginal wall which can't be done any other way so that's cool.
It's not deathly painful like everyone seems to think, unless your man's got a foot long dong It may feel strange and uncomfortable the first few times and for a min afterward, but it's totally good!